There are two takeaways from this blog post that I’m going to share with you up front. Right now. Why? Because you have ADHD and I don’t want to run the risk of losing your attention in the 5 minutes that it will take you to finish reading this post.

 

Ready for the takeaways?

 

  1. I love (love love love love love) ADHD medication

 

And

 

  1. Different seasons of my life have brought about different needs for treatment and support

 

When I was first diagnosed with ADHD, I was a 21-year-old college student double-majoring and completely floundering. I was the “smart but lazy” girl who just couldn’t get her sh*t together.

 

My family doctor diagnosed me and prescribed a stimulant medication. I didn’t notice change the first month, so he upped the dose the next month. Because we ADHDers suck at being self-aware, it was very hard for me to observe any improvements in my overall performance…until I got my report card that semester. For the first time EVER, my grades went on the fridge.

 

I totally crushed it!

 

I was a believer in meds, man. I took that stimulant like it would save my life, and in many ways it did: I graduated college with 2 Bachelor’s degrees, I was able to maintain and commit to a healthy romantic relationship. I could function better than I ever did before.

 

Fast forward a few years and I entered what I will lovingly refer to as “The Mom Phase.” The Mom Phase lasted 10 years and during this time I was pregnant with, nursed, and potty trained 3 rambunctious boys.

 

I chose not to take medication during this season of my life.

 

For me, life without medication was definitely harder than life with it. That’s all there is to it. During this time I saw a Naturopath and did Nutrition Response Testing and took the supplements that they recommended. I also saw a therapist about once a month. It was helpful and eased some of the symptoms, but I still struggled to focus and to prioritize and to manage my time. And I really struggled to manage and control my emotions.

 

Just recently, I realized that I was officially out of The Mom Phase. My kids are currently 10, 8, and 4. I found myself struggling to manage my home life along with my day job. I wasn’t motivated to work on this website. I was struggling to control my obsessive thoughts (and feelings) about politics, and I was struggling to stay calm, cool and collected when my kids were loud and crazy (which is all the time).

 

So I asked myself: “Self, why are you avoiding taking medication now that you are out of The Mom Phase?”

 

And you know what? I didn’t have a good answer.

 

So off I went to my doctor. This time she prescribed a non-stimulant to see if it would be effective. So far, the jury is still out. I’m not sure how much it has helped me (it’s only been a month), BUT I am so convinced that this is the right move for this season of my life and I am so so so excited to be getting the support that I deserve.

 

Here’s the deal: I value myself. I value my productivity. I value my own peace of mind. I value the relationships I have with my husband and my kids. I value my job. I value my bank account. I decided it’s time I start acting like I value all of these things by treating my ADHD which has been scientifically proven to prevent me from succeeding in these areas!

 

What do you value? Are you putting other people’s opinions about ADHD and medication above your own mental, physical, and emotional health? Can you stop doing that and just get the help you deserve? Thanks.

 

If you visit my resources page, you’ll be able to find a few of the books that I read that helped me understand why medication was/is so important. Click Here. 

 

Need a scholarly article to share with a family member about the adverse effects of untreated ADHD? Click Here.

Join the discussion 5 Comments

  • Fleurette Gall says:

    Dear Kristen-
    I have not responded to a website blog before, I am a little apprehensive about discussing my feelings on the web but will try. I stumbled upon your blog while researching the symptom and solutions to adult ADHD. I don’t have a formal diagnosis but all the issues discussed are my daily and pass struggles. I made a career move that I love but can’t seem to focus, hence the search for solutions. I want to move forward with getting a diagnosis but can’t seem to focus enough time on finding the “perfect” program or doctor! Any tips to getting this process started? Maybe you could discuss how to move forward to find that care.
    I love your website and your candor about the struggles of ADHA. Actually, I just realized (remembered), I didn’t quite stumble on to the website. I found it through the the podcast! Hahah, I’ve been listening for a few days now on the way to work. Thank you for taking the time to bring ADHD out in the open for all to understand and learn about.

    • Kristen says:

      Hello Fleurette! I am so glad you are enjoying the podcast and website. It is so hard to make yourself focus long enough to make an appointment. I get this! I want to tell you that it’s worth it…it’ll be worth all of the “pain” that it takes to make the appointment. Here are some steps for you:
      1. Find your insurance card
      2. Call the insurance company to find a psychologist or psychiatrist
      3. Call and make an appointment
      4. Write the appointment down – *put a reminder in your phone* and put it on the bathroom mirror too
      5. Go have a margarita – you did it!!
      Best of luck!
      Kristen

  • Monique says:

    I just wanted to say I love your podcast and website. This is exactly how I feel. Im a mom with two kids and my son has Adhd as swell so its very nerd for me and him to get a long at times. I cant stand the loud noise and im always irritated. I was wondering if medicine is my best source. I do go through therapy every week. My husband thinks im crazy and with the adhd im diabetic. So im constantly feeling overwhelmed. So right now im at a lost. Im trying to get my husband to see how I feel but he doesn’t get it. But thank you for the podcast I just started listening today and they r wonderful.

    Thanks,
    Monique

    • Kristen says:

      Hi Monique!
      What a sweet comment – thank you so much for reaching out. I am so glad that you are finding support in the podcast! I wish you allllll the best!!
      Kristen

      • monique feeley says:

        Yes, I listen every week. It helps so much. I honestly thought I was the only one who was dealing with this or thinking this way. Im glad its not just me anymore. 😊

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