From Kristen Carder

You're Not in Trouble

The ADHD Guide to Building Healthy, Connected Relationships

An empowering self-coaching guide to help ADHDers understand, repair, and build healthy relationships — with friends, romantic partners, family, and at work — from the creator of the I Have ADHD podcast.

An empowering self-coaching guide to help ADHDers understand, repair, and build healthy relationships—with friends, romantic partners, and family, and at work—from ADHD coach Kristen Carder, host of the I Have ADHD podcast and founder of FOCUSED.

The five relationships ADHD touches most

When you have a neurodivergent brain, it can be hard to connect with the people closest to you.

Friendships

Romantic Partnerships

Parent & Child

Family of Origin

Work Relationships

There are rules that everyone else seems to know and play by that don’t come easily to you. Instead of feeling secure and grounded, you move through your relationships feeling like you’re always in trouble.

Armed with this insight, you can begin to build relationships that feel safe, steady, and genuinely connected. You will have practical tools to repair what has been strained, step out of dysfunction, and show up with clarity and self-trust in the relationships that matter most.

You’ll learn how to:

A gentle journey into creating rewarding relationships, with advice tailored for the ADHD brain. Using a trauma-informed approach, it guides you toward sincere, lasting changes that strengthen your connections with others — and help you realize that you are finally enough.

What The Experts Are Saying

“If you have ADHD or care about someone who does, Kristen Carder is the coach you’ve been looking for. She’s written a compassionate, practical guide for navigating ADHD in all kinds of relationships—from family to friendship to work.”

— Adam Grant, #1 New York Times
bestselling author of Vibe and Think Again, and host of the podcast Re:Thinking

“Kristen Carder is one of the most trusted voices in the ADHD world, and You're Not In Trouble is a gem. Warm, practical, and deeply hopeful, this book belongs in the hands of every adult with ADHD and the people who love them.”

—Dr. Edward Hallowell, New York Times–bestselling author of Driven to Distraction

“Kristen Carder names something many adults with ADHD quietly carry: the sense that they are always one misstep away from disappointing someone. You’re Not in Trouble gives readers language for that experience and invites them toward more honest, connected relationships.”

—Tamara Rosier, PhD, author of Your Brain’s Not Broken

About The Author

Kristen Carder

Kristen Carder is the host of the I Have ADHD podcast and a multi-certified coach who has supported thousands of people with ADHD worldwide. Since beginning her work in 2012, Kristen has become a trusted voice in the ADHD community. She is the founder of FOCUSED, a global coaching program for adults with ADHD. Her work specializes in trauma-informed, evidence-based approaches to executive functioning, emotional regulation, and healthy relationships. Kristen lives outside Philadelphia with her husband and their three sons.

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I Have ADHD empowers adults to understand, embrace, and thrive with ADHD through expert coaching, practical strategies, and supportive community. Founded by ADHD expert Kristen Carder, we’ve helped thousands transform their relationship with their brain.