This week, I blew up at my son. At the time, I felt justified (don’t cross mama’s boundaries) but the more I sat with the situation, I knew I was in the wrong.
The whole thing made me feel ick and got me thinking about the “right way” to apologize.
Note: These are tips for apologizing in a perfect world. If you’re activated, feeling defensive, or in self-judgment mode, it’s going to be way harder to put these into action.
Here’s the thing: Being human is hard. We all want safe, connected relationships. But every relationship in our lives will rupture at some point.
Fortunately, it is possible to repair even when we’re in the wrong.
Because at the end of the day, apologies aren’t enough. (I know, if you grew up in a home where “sorry” was used as a power play to silence you, this is probably shocking.)
But being sorry doesn’t fix everything. ????????♀️ We need to do the work of repair, and people need time before they can recalibrate and trust us again. That’s NORMAL.
In this episode on How to Apologize, I’m sharing 3 steps you need to take the next time you apologize – plus what you need to do to repair the relationship and make sure you don’t make the same mistake again.
