The I Have ADHD Podcast is the #1 top-rated ADHD podcast. Whether you’re officially diagnosed, have some ADHD symptoms or are just curious about ADHD, this podcast will change your life. With millions of downloads and thousands of 5-star reviews, it’s obvious that adults with ADHD are loving the I HAVE ADHD podcast!
Join experienced ADHD expert and dually-certified coach Kristen Carder as she gives all of the tips, tricks, and no-nonsense coaching.
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Love love love this podcast so much! As an adult who recently got diagnosed with ADHD, this podcast has helped me understand that I am not inherently “wrong.” Her topics are so relevant and relatable, and she gives the best advice on how to continue navigating through life with ADHD.
Listeners' Favorite Episodes
Episode #38: How to Prioritize with ADHD
How in the world do we choose what’s important AND focus on it?!
Episode #105: “Is ADHD an Excuse?”
A heart to heart about the difference between an excuse and an explanation.
Episode #124: Self Sabotage and Why You’re Stuck
Why we sabotage ourselves and how we can interrupt this self-defeating pattern.
Episode #129: How to Stop Procrastinating
My top 4 tips on how to stop procrastinating and get sh*t done.
Episode #170: How to Stop Self-Sabotaging
Feel like you’re always taking 2 steps forward and 3 steps back? This episode is the antidote.
Episode #190: How to Be a Good Parent
Advice on ways we can all grow and improve as moms and dads to our little ones.
“What [Kristen is] doing is wonderful. I applaud you."
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As a late-in-diagnosis person, I have a lot to learn. Sooo many things make sense to me now, as I learn from Kristen’s honest and open ADHD wisdom She is encouraging and realistic, with practical suggestions for how to manage our “executives that aren’t functioning” and importantly, embracing the positives of ADHD, rather than wallowing in the bad parts of the disorder.
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Each time I tune in for a new episode I feel like I am reuniting with a dear friend that gets me, helps me grow and feel good about myself!
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I truly love this podcast. She does such a wonderful job of taking important, complex, sometimes hard to sift through research and putting it out there in an accessible and palatable way. The information is always great, the host is amazing and the guests are always interesting. If you have ADHD, if you suspect you have ADHD, if you love someone with ADHD give this a listen, you won’t regret it.
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Latest Episodes
Episode #283: Solo Show! Dr. John Delony’s Wrong About This, Answering Listener Questions, and the Latest Research on Trauma & ADHD
I’m trying out a new solo show style this week, and I hope you love it! I’ve got a bunch of fun segments for you: First, I tell you all about my trip to Oxford University for a conference on Trauma, next I answer listener questions, and finally my spicy rant about how Dr. John Delony says that ADHD is “JUST” the body’s response to chaos. Excuse me no. Get outta here with that.
Episode #282: Navigating Difficult Family of Origin Relationships with Whitney Goodman @sitwithwhit
Psychotherapist Whitney Goodman is here today to talk about a crucial topic for many of us: navigating family-of-origin relationships as an adult with ADHD. We dive deep into the challenges and complexities neurodivergent individuals face within their families, especially during significant life transitions.
Episode #281: The Bully in Your Brain: How ADHDers Can Quiet Their Inner Critic
In this episode, we start by examining how negative self-talk, often rooted in childhood criticism and toxic relationships, affects adults with ADHD. This inner critic can lead to self-hate and hypervigilance, causing toxic shame and hindering personal growth. I share my own struggles with shame rumination and the challenge of cultivating a positive inner voice, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion.
Episode #280: Do I have ADHD? Breaking Down 10 Symptoms & Common Misconceptions
I break down 10 of the symptoms of ADHD and explain in detail how they show up in your daily life. If you think you might have adult ADHD or you want a refresher on what it means to have ADHD, you’re going to love this episode!
Episode #279: “I drained my retirement account because of FOMO” How Folks with ADHD Can Stop People-Pleasing with Adrienne Himelright
Meet my sister, Adrienne Himelright. In this episode, we dive deep into our shared experiences with ADHD and the all-too-familiar challenges of people-pleasing. Adrienne opens up about her struggles, including sharing a story where people-pleasing led her to drain her retirement account.
Episode #278: You’re Allowed to be Messy!! Interview with Stacy Scott
Stacy Scott is a feng shui practitioner and decluttering expert who has so much wisdom to share about how our environments impact our self-concept and personal growth. You won’t want to miss this transformative conversation!
Episode #277: Conquering Your Email Inbox and Using ChatGPT for the ADHD Brain with Paula Engebretson
In this episode, we dive into productivity strategies, managing emails, and how tools like ChatGPT can make a difference in our daily lives. Whether you’re looking to improve your email management, understand your ADHD strengths, or find new tools to boost productivity, this episode has something for everyone.
Episode #276: From Self-Sabotage to Brave Expression: A Conversation with Africa Brooke
I’m thrilled to share a deeply insightful conversation with my mentor, Africa Brooke. Africa’s latest book, “The Third Perspective,” dives into the complex realms of self-sabotage and censorship, and in our discussion, we unpack the significance of moving beyond binary thinking in today’s society.
Episode #275: Marriage, ADHD, and Growth: A 20-Year Journey with Kristen and Greg
I’m celebrating my 20th wedding anniversary with my husband Greg by having him on the podcast today! We’ve grown a lot in managing conflicts and emotional regulation, and today, we’re sharing some insights from a recent disagreement that actually showcased our improved conflict management skills.
Episode #274: Understanding Dyslexia (and Breaking Down the Myths) in Neurodivergent Adults
Dyslexia expert Natalie Brooks joins me today to dive deep into the interplay between ADHD and dyslexia, exploring the importance of recognizing multiple neurodiversities.
Episode #273: Healing from Dysfunction and Complex PTSD with Adult Child Podcast Host, Andrea Ashley
Andrea is blazing the trail in recovering from addiction and Complex PTSD. We dive into a heartfelt conversation about the intricate web of ADHD, trauma, dysfunctional families, and Complex PTSD.
Episode #272: From Denial to Recognition: Let’s Talk About Trauma and ADHD
A significant part of our conversation today revolves around the ongoing debate about whether ADHD is caused by trauma or genetics. While unaddressed trauma can mimic ADHD symptoms, it’s crucial to differentiate and understand both.
Episode #271: The Ex Good Girl: A Recent ADHD Diagnosis, Perimenopause, and How to Stop Avoiding Difficult Conversations with Sara Fisk
In today’s episode, I’m joined by the woman who trained ME as a coach, the incredible Sara Fisk. Sara helps people pleasers stop avoiding difficult conversations, and let me tell you, we GET INTO IT on this episode.
Episode #270: Alcohol Use and ADHD: My Journey and “Local Sober” Approach
In this episode, I open up about the struggle of using alcohol as a nightly aid to combat insomnia, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm, only to realize the negative consequences it had on my sleep and overall well-being.
Episode #269: Stop Exploding! How to Master Emotional Regulation in Relationships
Living with ADHD often means dealing with intense feelings that can lead to explosive reactions, affecting how we relate to those around us. By becoming more self-aware and learning to self-soothe, we can reduce conflicts and develop healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
Episode #268: The Relationship Hack That Will Change Your Life Forever
Discover the distinct difference between neurotypical and ADHD brains in terms of ranking priorities, and understand why learning to prioritize relationships can drastically improve your social life.
Episode #267: Why Are Relationships SO DANG HARD for Adults with ADHD?
Living with ADHD can often feel like navigating a minefield, especially when it comes to relationships. Impulsivity, distractibility, memory issues, and struggles with self-reflection can create a myriad of obstacles.
Episode #266: Breaking Free from Masking: ADHD and Authenticity in Relationships
In this episode, we’ll explore what masking is, how it impacts our relationships and self-perception, and why it’s so crucial to create spaces where we can be our authentic selves.
Episode #265: Travel Smarter: 5 Essential Tips for ADHD-Friendly Vacations
Today, I’m sharing my personal experiences and practical advice on how to manage ADHD during your travels: The Importance of Rest and Planning Ahead, Avoiding Overload, Mindful Financial Planning, Prioritizing Individual Needs and Comfort, Essential Travel Tips, and Disconnecting from Work
Episode #264: Feeding the Mind: Debunking the Diet-Only ADHD Management Myth
Today we delve deep into the complex and often misunderstood relationship between diet and ADHD symptoms. But, as we’ll explore, it’s not as straightforward as it may seem.
Episode #263: Everything On My Mind Lately No. 2
I’m sharing some hot takes on a book I recently read that I wanted to throw against a wall, discussing a super ADHD-friendly book I highly recommend, and giving you TMI about what’s been happening in my family lately.
Episode #262: How Coaching Can Change Your Life with Brooke Schnittman
In this episode, Brooke shares exactly what’s worked for her in her ADHD journey and what she uses to help her own clients have those same aha moments in their own lives.
Episode #261: The Episode All About Sleep
This episode is going all in on a spicy topic. That’s right, we’re talking about sleep. Or for some of you ADHDers, lack of sleep. I’m sharing exactly what you need to improve your sleep once and for all.
Episode #260: How to Use The 7-Minute Principle to Get Sh*t Done
What if you could change your life in 7 minutes? I’m here to tell you it’s possible. In fact, I’m doing it myself. It’s called The 7-Minute Principle, and it’s the idea you can do anything for 7 minutes.
Episode #259: You’re Not the Problem, Part 2: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse with Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna
They are baaaaaaack! Everyone’s favorite psychotherapists, Helen Villiers, and Katie McKenna, are back to finish the conversation on emotionally abusive behaviors they see in parent-child relationships.
Episode #258: Overcoming Adversity with Dr. Layne Norton @biolayne
Dr. Layne Norton has a Ph.D. in Nutritional Sciences, 4 USA Power Lifting National Titles, and 1700 clients in his coaching program. He’s sharing the ways he copes with his diagnosis and how he’s used what he’s learned over the years to create a crazy successful business and beautiful home life.
Episode #257: You’re Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse with Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna
I’m honored to have these two incredible ladies back on the podcast to discuss some of the emotionally abusive behaviors they commonly see from parent to child. Even if you believe you had a very normal childhood and your parents were wonderful people, I’d urge to to listen to this episode.
Episode #256: 10 Ways to Be a Good Partner (Even When You Have ADHD)
I’ve been married to Greg Carder for almost 20 years years. When I tell you we couldn’t be more different…Through a lot of trial and error combined with years of ADHD research on my end, we’ve learned a thing or two about how to be a good partner. More specifically — how to be a good partner to someone who’s neurotypical when you have ADHD.
Episode #255: Your ADHD Questions, Answered
We’re covering topics like…What to do if you feel like medication isn’t working for you • How to avoid binge eating when you struggle with ADHD • How to transition into intimacy with your partner when it’s unexpected • All the challenges of parenting with ADHD
Episode #254: 35 Years Old And Learning To Read With Oliver James
After being diagnosed with ADHD and OCD as a child, Oliver spent most of his life struggling to keep up. At 35 years old, Oliver is learning how to read for the first time. I truly cannot wait for you to hear his story.
Episode #253: How to Acquire an ADHD Diagnosis in 2024
In this podcast episode, I’m sharing the 3 steps you need to take if you’re ready for a formal assessment, including links for an online diagnosis.
Episode #252: How to Apologize (When You Have ADHD)
In this episode on How to Apologize, I’m sharing 3 steps you need to take the next time you apologize – plus what you need to do to repair the relationship and make sure you don’t make the same mistake again.
Episode #251: The Importance of Autonomy as an ADHD Adult
Many of us grew up in situations where we didn’t feel we had autonomy or the right to self-govern. We didn’t feel like we were in charge of our lives. So, in adulthood, we struggle to recognize that we have control over what we say yes and no to.
Episode #250: Everything On My Mind Lately
This episode is me dumping the contents of my brain for all to see (or…hear?!) including the actual meltdown I had after a crazy successful FOCUSED launch last month, why success is scarier for us ADHDers than failure, my struggle to stop overcommitting, and all the surprising things I learned from dry January.
Episode #249: Real-Life Examples of Building Self-Trust With ADHD
Self-trust is hard for those of us with ADHD. If you feel alone, I encourage you to listen to this coaching call. It will help you understand yourself better. On this call, you’ll learn how to become your own (overly protective) bestie who doesn’t listen to that voice in your head.
Episode #248: Stop Saying Sorry
We’re digging DEEP into why we feel the need to apologize so much when we should be saying sorry, and why it’s detrimental to constantly be in sorry mode. If you find yourself apologizing for every little thing, this episode will be a game-changer.
Episode #247: Living in ADHD Recovery with Jen Kirkman: Part 2 of My Interview with “My Most Famous Client”
In part 2, we get to learn how Jen found ADHD coaching (spoiler: it was listening to this very podcast), how she uses talk therapy and coaching, a daily morning routine she calls “Bedquarters”, stepping away from burnout and into a life she loves, what her career plans are for 2024 and beyond…
Episode #246: Interview with Jen Kirkman: Writer, Standup Comedian, and My Most Famous Client
Part 1 – Jen is currently a writer/producer on the one-hour comedy Etoile for Amazon Prime. She was a writer/producer on 4 seasons of the The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel (Amazon Prime). Jen hosts a weekly solo podcast, is a New York Times Bestselling author, and has two critically acclaimed stand-up specials on Netflix.
Episode #245: Burn Your To-Do List
How long is your to-do list right now? If you’re like most ADHDers, you’ve got a laundry list of things that you’ve been carrying around for years now — and it’s anchoring you down.
Episode #244: Beginner’s Guide to ADHD, Part 5: Busting ADHD Myths
When it comes to ADHD, there are a lot of myths out there. As a person with ADHD, it’s your job to be educated in the diagnosis so that you understand what you’re dealing with. This also allows you to teach those around you how they can best support you and your relationship.
Episode #243: Creating a (Doable) Vision for 2024
If you’re ready to take a look back at 2023 and figure out what worked and what didn’t work, this episode is for you. Adults with ADHD tend to struggle with self-reflection, so this can be challenging if you’re not doing it correctly. I wanted to share a class I just taught in my group coaching program because I think it will be validating for a lot of you as you look ahead.
Episode #242: How to Build Self-Trust Even with ADHD
This week we’re going to be talking about specific ways that you can build self-trust and I want to be very upfront and honest with you that these are not easy or quick fixes. This takes time. BUT this is a WORTHWHILE process…it’s worth working toward.
Episode #241: Why do ADHDers Struggle with Self-Trust
For the average ADHD adult, life feels very wobbly.Instead of feeling grounded within ourselves like confident adults, we often look to others to gauge how we’re doing. In today’s episode you’ll learn why adults with ADHD don’t trust themselves, and next week we’ll discuss what we can do about it.
Episode #240: A Beginner’s Guide to ADHD, Part 4: Relationship Dynamics
Have you noticed that your relationships look different than other people? Friendships and partnerships are harder for adults with ADHD, largely due to the fact that we’re highly sensitive to rejection.
Episode #239: A Beginner’s Guide to ADHD, Part 3: Thriving With ADHD
In this episode, I’m sharing the five steps you should take if you want to finally gain control of your life as an adult ADHDer. These steps include getting an accurate diagnosis and educating yourself about ADHD.
Episode #238: A Beginner’s Guide to ADHD, Part 2: ADHD is (NOT) a Gift
Labeling ADHD as a superpower invalidates people who are struggling with this neurodevelopmental disorder. It can even lead to victim-blaming: “If ADHD is awesome, then I’m the problem.” In my opinion, this is not the right way to address ADHD. It’s actually quite the opposite.
Episode #237: Going Back to the ADHD Basics (A Refresher on Adult ADHD)
Today, we’re going back to the basics of ADHD — because sometimes the noise can cause us to forget what’s *actually* going on inside these beautiful brains of ours.
Episode #236: FOCUSED Member Chat: How Does Generational Trauma Impact Us?
When it comes to the way we function as adults, our family history plays a much larger role than many of us think. In this podcast episode, I’m talking with FOCUSED member CJ about generational trauma and its impact on adult ADHDers.
Episode #235: The ADHDers Guide to Being Proactive (Even With a Reactive Brain)
As adults with ADHD, when there’s a stimulus our brains are naturally triggered to react. We lack impulse control, so our instinct is to respond immediately. Someone who’s proactive doesn’t act out of impulse, and they aren’t constantly putting out fires or managing other people’s issues at their own expense. How do you morph into someone proactive as an ADHDer?
Podcast Episode #234: The Unexpected Link Between Trauma & Your Messy Home
If my home was perfect, I felt like I was failing my family. A huge part of getting past this was unpacking my own trauma story and healing. I hear from my clients all the time. “I don’t understand why they can keep a clean house and I can’t.” It feels like failure, but I promise you, it’s not.
Podcast Episode #233: One Year Sober: A Mom’s Perspective on Weed and ADHD with Natalie Chien
Those of us with ADHD are more susceptible to substance use and addiction. When our ADHD is left undiagnosed, unmedicated, or untreated, we will inevitably find some way or something to help us feel better.
Podcast Episode #232: Your Brain’s Not Broken with Dr. Tamara Rosier
In this episode, we cover a wide range of topics in her book, such as masking, vulnerability, convergent vs. divergent thinking and the individual houses (or psyches) we all have to protect and maintain for a healthy mind.
Podcast Episode #231: Acquiring ADHD Medication: Why Is This Process SO DANG HARD?!
I’m going to be very honest. This episode is a dedicated “b**** fest” on how hard it is to get the medication prescribed for ADHD. If any of you adults out there have been through this, sometimes it’s therapeutic just to let out all the frustration and feel seen and heard.
Podcast Episode #230: Racial Identity, Trauma, and ADHD with Annahid Dashtgard
Annahid is so well-versed in creating safe places for people to have hard conversations. We’ll learn about the overlap of racial identity, trauma, and ADHD that many communities experience with very little understanding from medical and therapeutic professionals.
Podcast Episode #229: ADHD at 74: It’s Never Too Late with ADHDer & FOCUSED Member Ellen
Ellen’s story is so inspirational to me because it’s a testament that it’s never too late to get an ADHD diagnosis and seek help understanding yourself better. Age and past failures will only limit you if you let them.
Podcast Episode #228: How to Create a Picture & Take Charge of Your Life
Today’s episode is all about how to be PROactive not REactive. ADHDers spend so much time putting out fires and reacting to everything happening around us. We need to put down the fire hose and start making some purposeful decisions.
Maybe I’m Not the Problem with Complex Trauma Expert Danica Harris, Ph.D, SEP
In this DEEP convo, Kristen and Danica discuss Complex Trauma, Is it ADHD or CPTSD?, Attunement, Attachment, Somatic Experiencing, How to Identify a Trigger, and The Complexity of Healing
Podcast Episode #227: Dealing With ADHD and Chronic Pain with FOCUSED Member Sue Pieters
Sue and I discuss how things like trauma and emotional wounds can eventually weaken the immune system to the point of breaking down physical health, and how important it is to receive therapy and coaching in a way that’s sensitive to ADHD.
Podcast Episode #226: What Do Finances, Relationships, and ADHD Have in Common? with Financial Therapist Christine Hargrove
We talk about Christine’s ADHD journey and her work with ADHDers in encouraging them to trust their own authority and ability to make decisions. Get ready to get comfortable with calculated risk and understanding that you don’t have to wait to make a decision until it’s perfect.
Podcast Episode #225: FOCUSED Member Chat: Emotional Regulation with Michael Johnson
If you’ve struggled with horrible self-talk, disordered eating, and difficult relationships, this episode is going to be right up your alley. In case you haven’t had enough of ME talking about emotional regulation, Michael discusses from a client perspective why he truly believes it is the number one skill for adults with ADHD to learn.
Maybe I’m Not the Problem: Maggie Patterson @bsfreebusiness
In this episode we are SPILLING ALL THE TEA. Maggie and I talk about: Self help, cults, and MLMS, Scammy online business practices, Mystery offers, “If I can do it you can do it”, Steven Hassan’s BITE model of culty practices, How to avoid getting scammed, How to be ethical (what does it even mean)
Podcast Episode #224: Can OCD Overlap With ADHD? with Guest Expert Kimberley Quinlan
Some of you with ADHD can identify with having additional neurodivergent diagnoses, such as OCD, and you may have experienced some confusion in differentiating between the two.
Podcast Episode #223: How to Leave a Toxic Work Environment
This episode is a rare treat as I chat with a current FOCUSED client of mine, Jason Rowlett, @JDouglasRowlett who shares his experience of identifying and leaving a toxic work environment.
Maybe I’m Not the Problem: Minaa B. @minaa_b
Minaa B. is a licensed social worker, writer, and author of Owning Our Struggles. We discuss psychological safety in the workplace, bullying, systematic traumas that we face daily, the nuance of boundaries in relationships, recognizing when you ARE the problem, and healing through community
Podcast Episode #222: Chatting With Kristen’s FOCUSED ADHD Certified Coaches
My regular listeners will know that I’ve been talking about my ADHD coaching certification program for the past couple of weeks. But this episode was so much fun because I had the pleasure of interviewing four of my trained coaches from the last term.
Podcast Episode #221: Understanding Your Capacity
Everything and everyone has a limited capacity. If you want to avoid burnout and feel a sense of balanced accomplishment everyday, you won’t get there by pushing yourself to do more. In this week’s episode, I share how under-parenting could have caused those of us with ADHD to ignore our limitations.
Maybe I’m Not the Problem: Kai Qiu @hicoachkai
Kai, a first-generation Chinese-Canadian and visionary Healing Transformation Coach, is the innovative mind behind Boundaries to Freedom, dedicated to empowering codependent adults on their journey towards emotional maturity.
Podcast Episode #220: My Spicy Thoughts on the Coaching Industry
Have you been considering a career change? Thinking about becoming an ADHD coach like me? Well, this episode is for you! What this is not: a perfect fantasy with puppies, rainbows and unicorns. What this is: my raw and honest truth about the pros and cons of the business.
Podcast Episode #219: Delayed Circadian Rhythm in Adults With ADHD
Sleep makes the world go round. So why can’t we ever seem to get enough of it? This week, I’m re-releasing an older episode with a bit more introductory commentary on how ADHD interrupts regular sleep patterns.
Maybe I’m Not the Problem: Whitney Goodman, LMFT @sitwithwhit
Whitney Goodman, LMFT, is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, author, and the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a virtual therapy practice in Florida.
Podcast Episode #218: How to Complete a Project That Feels Undefined
Tackling big milestones like attending university, moving out on your own or writing a book can be both exhilarating and intimidating. For those of us with ADHD, we can feel frozen in indecision as to how to begin such an endeavor.
Podcast Episode #217: Processing Conflicting Emotions
Those of us with ADHD, and even those who don’t have it, can attest to times when we aren’t sure how to feel and we argue with ourselves in our heads. Problem-solving is an essential adult function, but it can be really hard at times and we can get frozen in our indecision.
Podcast Episode #216: When You’ve Overscheduled Yourself…Again
I love saying ‘yes’ to things, but I can often find myself overburdened with too much on my list. Not surprisingly, this just happened to me, so I decided to process through it and turn it into a podcast episode to help those of you with ADHD that do this too!
Podcast Episode #215: Addiction and Recovery with Scott Kiloby
Today’s episode is specifically for ADHD entrepreneurs trying to do everything on their own. I’ve got my bestie Hillary with me, from HandsOn OBM, to convince you why hiring an assistant could be the best thing for you and your business.
Podcast Episode #214: Virtual Assistants for ADHD Entrepreneurs
Today’s episode is specifically for ADHD entrepreneurs trying to do everything on their own. I’ve got my bestie Hillary with me, from HandsOn OBM, to convince you why hiring an assistant could be the best thing for you and your business.
Podcast Episode #213: Practical Self-Care for the ADHD Adult
I’m diving into everything from the privilege of self-care that not everyone has available to them, forms of free and cost-associated self-care, and how to determine if your self-care is actually just avoidance. You may think you don’t have the capacity to consider self-care, but there are options!
Podcast Episode #212: How to Navigate a Later-in-Life ADHD Diagnosis
Do you feel like you received an ADHD diagnosis late in life? There can be a range of emotions and new stages of growth that you experience after gaining clarity in this area.
Podcast Episode #211: How to Cut Down on Chaos
I’m going back to ADHD basics today by addressing how to cut down on the chaos of our everyday lives. As adults with ADHD, we know this is a regular problem for us. We may have an epiphany and simplify for a while, but inevitably, things pile up again and again and again.
Podcast Episode #210: Real Conversations on Daily ADHD Struggles
Have you ever felt emotionally hungover? I think all of us adults experience this semi-regularly, especially if you have ADHD. When you have a full life of responsibilities, it can be challenging managing your energy and stewarding your capacity. In this week’s episode, I am sharing a recording of my group coaching program FOCUSED, where I chat with three people who feel overwhelmed.
Podcast Episode #209: The Books That Changed My Life
It’s my birthday week! I love birthdays, getting older, and celebrating life and growth. So for this special birthday episode, I’m sharing a comprehensive list of the books that have changed my life and the reasons why.
Podcast Episode #208: ADHD Medication and Pregnancy – NEW Study Alert!
There is a new study revealing that there is no connection to children developing neurological conditions or physical impairments whose mothers took ADHD medication when pregnant. This episode is all about prioritizing your needs for mental and physical wellness. You deserve nurturing as much as your baby. There are enough pressures in this world on pregnant women and mothers, and I’m here to tell you that YOU MATTER TOO.
Episode #207: Soothing the Pain of Rejection
The last episode of the rejection series is a good one on how to respond to and soothe the pain from rejection. Avoidance, people-pleasing and perfectionism are responses that many of us identify with as a way of limiting the amount of rejection in our lives. These three coping mechanisms can be replaced with productive strategies, however, which I have double the options for!
Episode #206: The Power of Therapy for Rejection Sensitivity
In part 3 of the rejection series, we talk about rejection trauma from the beautiful perspective of a therapist with ADHD, Helen Villiers. Helen explains important terms such as toxic shame, moral defense, mirroring and stonewalling. My favorite part is when Helen helps me identify why it can be so hard to not take rejection personally and why I look for mirroring in relationships.
Episode #205: Why I’m Rejecting RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria)
I get bold and honest in this episode as I challenge “expert” opinion on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). And honestly, I’m scared you’re going to reject me for it. I reject the idea that our ADHD itself is the genetic and neurological CAUSE of our rejection issues. No. Growing up in a world that constantly rejects us is the cause of our rejection issues.
Episode #204: A Look at Rejection Sensitivity with ADHD
From childhood to adulthood, we experience rejection in a variety of ways and learn how to respond to it. Those of us with ADHD often experience this frequently and at an early age. As a result, we tend to have heightened sensitivity to feelings of exclusion or dismissal. This episode involves a critical self-examination and reflection time to determine whether or not you may demonstrate rejection sensitivity.
Podcast Episode #203:Understanding Executive Functions – Self-Motivation
The last episode in the executive function focuses on self-motivation. The timing of this episode is perfect because taxes are due in a few weeks! You may be especially struggling with the motivation to beat that deadline, and I’m here to explain why.
It all comes down to our lack of dopamine, but that doesn’t mean we are lazy or a lost cause for productivity. A customized cocktail of support can help us improve in this impaired executive function.
Podcast Episode #202: Understanding Executive Functions – Self-Awareness (This Will Change Everything)
Part 5 of the executive function series is on self-awareness – the ability to reflect, evaluate and ponder your thinking patterns. Self-awareness can be a very uncomfortable thing to do and it might bring up a lot of shame and guilt. That’s why I offer six super helpful tips to implement that will create a safer space for you to examine your way of thinking and make a game plan for positive change
Episode #201: Do You Have Emotionally Immature Parents? with Dr. Lindsay Gibson
My conversation with Dr. Lindsay Gibson generated pure gold in this week’s episode about emotionally immature parents. It’s important to note that this is in no way parent-shaming but instead illuminates how many people with ADHD were likely raised by emotionally immature adults (and perhaps perpetuating this behavior).
Podcast Episode #200: Maybe I’m Not the Problem: Understanding Emotional Abuse with Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna
In this special episode, I’ve invited emotional abuse and relationship experts, Katie McKenna and Helen Villiers, to share their perspective on toxic relationships and how they affect ADHDers.
Podcast Episode #199: Understanding Executive Functions – Problem Solving
While those of us with ADHD may be good at solving big, complex problems, facing the breakdown of smaller situations can be a real challenge. This episode will help you understand why problem solving is so hard and what we can do to tackle it head-on.
Podcast Episode #198: Understanding Executive Functions – Emotional Regulation
In part three of my six-part series on executive functions, I’m diving into emotional regulation and how it’s impacted with ADHD. Emotional regulation directly impacts how productive we’re able to be because how we feel drives our actions. Learn how to SURF our emotions in the moment instead of avoiding them.
Podcast Episode #197: Living Without a Pause Button
Those of us with ADHD can attest to how debilitating it is to not have strong, internal self-restraint. From interrupting conversations to cutting in line to leaping before we look, life with impaired inhibition can be daunting. I share the four types of inhibition (including cognitive, behavioral, and emotional motor) and offer tips on how we can keep this impairment in check.
Podcast Episode #196: Understanding Executive Functions – Working Memory
Working memory is a temporary storage system that allows you to hold information in your mind long enough to do something with it. I like to think of working memory as an internal bulletin board where sticky notes get posted temporarily. We’ll dive into understanding the mind’s voice and the mind’s eye that are both necessary to picture the steps involved in a task and get it done.
Podcast Episode #195: The Aspie World Meets I Have ADHD
Today I welcome Daniel Jones from The Aspie World as a special guest! He has been diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder Level 2), ADHD, OCD, and Dyslexia. Daniel shares tips for tricking the ADHD side of his brain into staying focused for longer periods of time and expresses why it’s so important to love each other and not feed dissension amongst our neurodivergent community. *strong language*
Podcast Episode #194: What to Do When Your Goal is No Longer Exciting
I made a goal to talk about one thing, told myself it would be easy, then procrastinated and realized it was more work than I was ready to handle. So here we go! I’ll talk through the things I did wrong this week, the steps I skipped, and the danger of excitement that I floated on instead of facing reality. Let’s learn together, and I hope I can help you avoid the pain I went through with this good but difficult goal.
Podcast Episode #193: ADHD Coaching: Letting Go of Neurotypical Expectations for Ourselves
I know how hard it can be to fight the way my brain works and spend too much energy shaming myself and wishing I was different. In this episode, I coach three separate, amazing adults dealing with very different life challenges and help them embrace and accept who they are and find ways to live their best lives alongside ADHD.
Podcast Episode #192: How to Accomplish Impossible Goals
This time of year, everyone is setting resolutions — something that can be especially hard for those diagnosed with ADHD. An impossible goal doesn’t have to be something huge and scary though. It can be as small as finishing work every day when you say you’re going to or waking up at the first alarm without hitting snooze…
Podcast Episode #191: How to Rewire Your Brain with Barbara Arrowsmith-Young
Barbara is known as “the woman who changed her brain.” After years of living with a diagnosed “mental block,” she set out to understand why parts of her brain weren’t functioning the way they should. What she discovered changed her understanding of the brain entirely, and she knew it was her life’s work to help others overcome the learning difficulties that might be holding them back.
Episode #190: How to Be a Good Parent
Advice on ways we can all grow and improve as moms and dads to our little ones.
Podcast Episode #189: Manage Your Mind Around Your Money This Season
Do you or do you not have the extra cash to spend on holiday gifts this season? This episode includes a recorded excerpt from the FOCUSED ADHD group coaching program with tough questions to ask yourself ASAP in order to properly prepare for holiday gift-giving without going into debt or feeling shame.
Podcast Episode #188: How to Survive this Holiday Season
Facing the holiday season can be intimidating. Normal everyday life is complicated enough living with ADHD, and yet so much more is expected of us in the last few months of the year. Here’s your strategic plan for managing your expectations and capacity in order to face this time with intentionality and prioritization.
Podcast Episode #187: Dear Neurotypical Friends and Family…
This one’s for all the neurotypical friends and family who have a loved one living with ADHD. There are SO many misconceptions about this diagnosis, and it can be super challenging for us to communicate our experiences to you effectively.
Podcast Episode #186: The Scandalous Concept of “Archive-All”
If you’re guilty of adding too many tasks to your to-do list and then feeling guilty for not completing them, this message is for you! It’s easy to lose ourselves in the list itself and struggle to cross anything off at all, leading to procrastination, dread, and shame.
Podcast Episode #185: The ADHDers Guide to Achievable Goals with Michelle Carter
Big, impossible goals are sexy. That’s what the world wants us to think. We have to do all of the things and be great at each one. But unrealistic goals are a challenge for adults with ADHD, and they set us up for failure.
Podcast Episode #184: How to Find (and Keep) a Hobby
I find that a lot of us ADHDers struggle to rest and play, and we have all the drama about participating in activities that are not ‘productive.’ Want to stop over-working and actually get a hobby? I’ve got 7 doable steps for you!
Podcast Episode #183: ADHD and Relationships Part 6: Self Trust with Dr. Russell Ramsay
We end our relationships series by circling back to the most important relationship: the one we have with ourselves. Dr. Russell Ramsay is here with us to chat about why self trust is especially difficult for adults with ADHD, and what we can do to build it.
Podcast Episode #182: ADHD and Relationships Part 5: How to Say NO
Saying no can be very difficult for any human, but I believe it’s especially hard for adults with ADHD. The more you say no when you want to, the more you are in the driver’s seat of your own life. Enjoy!
Podcast Episode #181: ADHD and Relationships Part 4: Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab
A big part of having healthy relationships is being able to express our own personal boundaries. But, how? Like actually, HOW?
I invited an expert on to share her wisdom with us: best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert, Nedra Glover Tawwab.
Podcast Episode #180: ADHD and Relationships Part 3: Safe vs. Unsafe People
Today we discuss the difference between someone who is safe verses someone who is unsafe. This has been a critical (and truthfully, painful) exercise that I have gone through in my own life that has improved my experience of every single relationship that I have.
Podcast Episode #179: ADHD and Relationships Part 2: Show Up to Meet Others’ Needs
We talk about surrounding ourselves with people who are willing and able to meet our needs being willing and able to meet THEIR needs, too. It’s both/and. You’ll learn my 4-tier system for prioritizing relationships and I’ll give you permission to let some relationships go.
Podcast Episode #178: ADHD and Relationships Part 1: Identifying and Meeting Your Own Relational Needs
Most ADHDers struggle with relationships, and I am no exception to this. In the last 3 years, I’ve done a TON of work in therapy and in coaching, and I’ve really changed the way that I view relationships. In this 4-part series, I’ll share everything I’ve learned about healthy relationships with you so that you can change your relationships, too.
Podcast Episode #177: How to Set Realistic, ADHD-Friendly Goals
On today’s episode, we talk about why ADHDers struggle to set realistic goals, and how to make sure that we don’t set ourselves up for failure by setting outlandish, unreachable goals. You’ll walk away with a more grounded sense of how to set goals that you can actually accomplish!
Podcast Episode #176: So You Want to be an ADHD Coach…Part 3: Interview with 3 Focused ADHD Coaches
Today you’ll hear from 3 of the coaches that I trained this year. They tell you about their experience, why they decided to become coaches, and what they loved/hated about my program.
Podcast Episode #175: So, You Want to be an ADHD Coach….Part 2
If you want to be an ADHD coach and you like my approach, I would love to train you as a coach! Part 1 and Part 2 of this series are so important for you to listen to as you make your decision of what coach training program to invest in.
Podcast Episode #174: So, You Want to be an ADHD Coach….Part 1
Buckle up, my friends! In this episode I dish all of my thoughts on ADHD coaching and the coaching industry. I let you know what I think is awesome, and what I find annoying, and I tell you how I’m going to solve the problem: By training ADHD coaches myself.
Podcast Episode #173: ADHD Coaching: Knowing What You Want, The Hard Parts of Your Job, Deciding to Put Yourself First
This episode is a compilation of a few coaching conversations I’ve had in the last couple of weeks in my coaching program, FOCUSED. I truly believe that while you listen, you will relate to each person I speak with and you’ll be able to have life-changing transformation.
Episode #172: How to Be Productive
A 5-step simple lesson in how to be productive.
Podcast Episode #171: Should You Tell People About Your ADHD?
It can be hard to decide whether or not you should share your ADHD diagnosis with the people in your life. Is it their business to know? Will it help or hurt the relationship? This is one of the questions that we get asked most often, and so I wanted to share some tips to making the decision!
Episode #170: How to Stop Self-Sabotaging
Feel like you’re always taking 2 steps forward and 3 steps back? This episode is the antidote.
Podcast Episode #169: How to Get Your ADHD Ass to Bed ON TIME!
If you have ADHD, you struggle to go to bed…it’s a whole thing for us. This episode will provide you with 10 doable tips for getting your sweet little ADHD butt to bed at the time that you SAY you’re going to go to bed.
Podcast Episode #168: How to Organize with ADHD
We all know that getting and staying organized is a MAJOR challenge for adults with ADHD. You’ll learn exactly why organization is hard for us, why it’s so important we divorce our ability to organize from our self-worth, how our spaces are a direct reflection of our minds, and exactly HOW to organize.
Podcast Episode #167: How To Make Decisions
Adults with ADHD struggle to make decisions. We delay and procrastinate and don’t think things through clearly, and this makes it so that we struggle move forward in our lives. THIS EPISODE IS THE ANTIDOTE TO THAT.
Podcast Episode #166: Let Go Of The Past So You Can Have A Better Future
Raise your hand if you still beat yourself up for things you did DECADES ago. In order to move into a different future, you’ve got to unshackle yourself from the past, and that’s what this episode is all about!
Podcast Episode #165: ADHD Entrepreneurship Part 4: Pay Yourself and Prioritize Profitability with Mike Michalowicz
If you’re an ADHD Entrepreneur who struggles to understand your business’s finances (raises hand) and conceptualize what EXACTLY to do with your revenue (raises both hands), this episode is going to rock your world.
Podcast Episode #164: ADHD Entrepreneurship Part 3: Honoring Your Capacity So That You Can Rest with Africa Brooke
In this DELICIOUS episode you will learn how rest and play are connected to your business’s bottom line $. Africa Brooke is a coach, consultant, strategist and seasoned entrepreneur…and did I mention she’s MY coach?
Podcast Episode #163: ADHD Entrepreneurship Part 2: Lean into Your Zone of Genius
ADHD entrepreneurs are BRILLIANT…but are you spending the majority of your time and energy in your zone of genius or are you wasting your time trying to fit into a neurotypical box?
Podcast Episode #162: ADHD Entrepreneurship Part 1: 5 Ways to Make Your Business More ADHD-Friendly
Oooooo baby get ready because we’re doing a 4-part series on ADHD + Entrepreneurship! This first episode is all about making your business more compatible with your ADHD brain so that the two of you (your biz and your brain) are not constantly in a fight.
Podcast Episode #161: The Most Underrated ADHD Skill Ever (Constraint)
I promise you, constraint is SEXY…let me convince you in this 30 min episode!! Stop cheating on your dreams with one-night-stand ideas, join me as I persuade you…
Podcast Episode #160: Binge Eating and ADHD
Did you know that ADHDers are very likely to struggle with binge eating? Find out why on today’s episode! Registered Dietitian Becca King is here to explain what binge eating is, why it is so prevalent among ADHDers, and how we can stop. Get ready for a shame-free, judgement-free discussion around eating, intuition, and ADHD management.
Podcast Episode #159: 10 Tips to Getting and Staying Focused
Every ADHDer wants to focus…but HOW!? Today’s episode is exactly what you need when you’re feeling scattered, lost, or overwhelmed. Kristen covers 10 practical steps
Podcast Episode #158: ADHD and Imposter Syndrome
Raise your hand if imposter syndrome holds you back from living your life to the fullest. I see you! This week’s episode is all about
Episode #157: Unwrapping the Gift of ADHD with Dr. Ned Hallowell
ADHD legend Dr. Ned Hallowell (Driven to Distraction, Delivered from Distraction, ADHD 2.0) is here today to share his infinite wisdom on all things ADHD.
Podcast Episode #156: How to Stop Looking at Porn
Some ADHDers struggle with Problematic Pornography Use, and that’s what we’re talking about today…GET READY! My guest, Danny Poelman, is a certified life coach who
Podcast Episode #155: What Is ADHD And How Do I Explain It?
Are you stumped when someone asks you to define ADHD? Do you either give them a super basic answer OR totally over-share? On today’s episode,
Podcast Episode #154: ADHD Coaching: Why You’re Stuck, Long Term Goals, and Maybe You’re Not the Problem
I truly think this is going to blow your mind. Today’s episode is a powerful coaching call that I hosted inside of my Focused ADHD coaching program a few weeks ago.
Episode #153: Sex Therapy and ADHD with Ari Tuckman
Let’s talk about S E X, shall we? Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST is a psychologist and certified sex therapist specializing in diagnosing and treating people with ADHD,
Podcast Episode #152: My Top 10 Takeaways from International (ADHD) Women’s Month
The last 4 episodes were dedicated to honoring the female ADHD experience. Join me today as I synthesize what I learned this month and show you
Episode #151: ADHD Women and Radical Acceptance with Sari Solden
Sari Solden is a PIONEER when it comes to women with ADHD, and she’s here today to talk about the intricacies of the struggles that women with ADHD face. From masking, to internalized social norms, to hiding, and brain shame, I predict that this episode will connect with you on a very deep level.
Podcast Episode #150: Motherhood and ADHD
Yakini Pierce is here to share with us her expertise on all things being a mama who has ADHD. We talk about the highs and lows
Episode #149: Women with ADHD: How Estrogen Impacts Our Symptoms with Dr. Quinn
Dr. Patricia Quinn is here to share her expertise on ADHD as it relates to PMS, PMDD, pregnancy, postpartum, perimenopause, and menopause. I learned SO MUCH from speaking with Dr. Quinn…
Podcast Episode #148: Honoring the Female ADHD Experience
March is International Women’s Month, and we’re dedicating all 5 weeks to honoring the female ADHD experience. Tune in today to hear from Paula Engebretson
Podcast Episode #147: How to Prioritize and Make Decisions
If you have ADHD, then you struggle to prioritize and make decisions. In this episode, we’ll work on accepting our ADHD brains and begin to develop the skill of turning UP the volume on what’s important and turning DOWN the volume on what’s not as important. And of course, we’ll chat about how to even decide what’s important in the first place.
Podcast Episode #146: 5 Reasons Coaching Works for Adults with ADHD
If you’ve wondered if you should give coaching a try, or if it even works, this episode will give you all the clarity. Hear my
Podcast Episode #145: ADHD’s Impact on Sex
Certified sex educator Cate Osborn is with us today to talk about all things sex as it relates to ADHD. Get ready for a fun and enlightening episode about how ADHD affects sex and intimacy, and how you can begin to overcome these challenges so that you can reach your potential …even in the bedroom (too far? Sorry).
Podcast Episode #144: Problematic Positive Thinking
“This will just take me 5 minutes” or “It’ll be fine” or “It’ll be different this time” are examples of potentially problematic positive thoughts. Positive
Episode #143: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for ADHD with Dr. Russell Ramsay
Today on the show I have superstar psychologist Dr. Russell Ramsay on to explain what CBT is and how it can be adapted and helpful for ADHDers. Tune in to hear us chat about procrastivity, self-trust, and why Philly sports teams cause both of us extreme heartache.
Podcast Episode #142: Ask Me Anything: ADHD Q&A Part 2
More of your questions answered! As an ADHD expert, certified coach to hundreds of adults with ADHD, and an ADHDer myself, I am uniquely positioned
Podcast Episode #141: Ask Me Anything: ADHD Q&A Part 1
As an ADHD expert, certified coach to hundreds of adults with ADHD, and an ADHDer myself, I am uniquely positioned to bring expertise, understanding, and
Podcast Episode #140: Pay Attention to Your (ADHD) Attention with Dr. Amishi Jha
Let’s learn about our attention from a neuroscientist, shall we? Amishi Jha, Ph.D, is here to discuss her new book, Peak Mind, in which she explains what attention is, the types of attention, and what happens when we pay attention to our attention. SPOILER ALERT: Attention is trainable…
Podcast Episode #139: Real-Life ADHD Coaching
What 2 things do an attorney, a solopreneur, and an architect have in common? 1. They all have human brains 2. They all have ADHD.
Podcast Episode #138: What’s Possible in 2022? An ADHD-Friendly Planning Session
Because of our deficient frontal lobes, planning, prioritizing, and following through are very difficult for ADHDers. This makes setting and achieving goals HARD! Today, I
Podcast Episode #137: An ADHD Friendly Year End Review
ADHDers aren’t great at reflection, which often leads us to staying stuck. In this episode, I walk you through a practice of evaluating your year
Podcast Episode #136: Finding Your Superpower
If ADHD isn’t your superpower (it isn’t), then what is? Today Kristen walks you through an exercise to determine what your true gift, superpower, and
Podcast Episode #135: ADHD is Not Your Superpower
Welp…this episode is either going to make you feel super validated and pumped-up orrrrrrrr super triggered. What we’re chatting about today is my OPINION, and
Podcast Episode #134: ADHD in a Plus-Sized Body
Gather ’round the table, my friends, we’re going to have a chat about being plus sized and ADHD, and the specific challenges that plus sized people face when seeking to obtain ADHD diagnosis and treatment.
Podcast Episode #133: How (and why) to hire an assistant
Today I’m interviewing my team and giving you a behind the scenes look at what it’s like to work with a crazy ADHD brain. I
Podcast Episode #132: LOL My ADHD Made Me Do It
Today’s episode is a compilation of funny ADHD stories sent in from listeners around the world – from leaving the car running to booking a flight
Podcast Episode #131: Should You Disclose Your ADHD Diagnosis
Today we’re going to dive deep into a question that I get asked a lot: “Should I tell people that I have ADHD?” The truth
Podcast Episode #130: Your Wacky Sleep Schedule (Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome)
There’s a reason why you want to stay up later (and then wake up later) than all of the neuro-typicals in your life, and it’s
Episode #129: How to Stop Procrastinating
My top 4 tips on how to stop procrastinating and get sh*t done.
Podcast Episode #128: The Creative ADHDer
Are you massively creative and feel like the ideas just never stop coming? How in the world do you constrain and choose one thing to
Podcast Episode #127: The Warm Up Before Working (AKA “Scrolling Time”)
You know that thing we do where we have to spend at least an hour doing nothing…essentially “wasting time” before we get into our work
Podcast Episode #126: Time Management
How is it possible that it’s taken me 126 episodes to record one on time management? This episode is deep – we talk about the REAL reasons we can’t manage our time, and what we can do about it.
Podcast Episode #125: How to Rest
If you have trouble slowing down and shutting your brain off, this episode is for you! I’ll dive into why we resist rest and how we can begin to overcome this tendency.
Episode #124: Self Sabotage and Why You’re Stuck
Why we sabotage ourselves and how we can interrupt this self-defeating pattern.
Podcast Episode #123: 10 Shifts in 3 Years
Today’s episode is a behind the scenes look at Kristen Carder’s journey. I’ve changed A LOT in the last 3 years and I’m sharing the specifics of who I used to be and who I am now.
Podcast Episode #122: ADHD and The Weight of the World
In the last 2 weeks, some very heavy and concerning world events have taken place. With so much suffering happening right now, I wanted to record an episode for you that acknowledges our collective pain and gives you some strategies on how to cope so that you can be an informed and caring human without being totally distracted and non-functional.
Podcast Episode #121: ADHD Diagnosis Over 50
Today’s episode is for senior adults who have been diagnosed or are considering seeking a diagnosis for ADHD. Is it worth it? Should you bother
Episode #120: ADHD Medications with Dr. Russell Barkley
Dr. Russell Barkley joins me on today’s episode to discuss the different types of ADHD medications and what he sees as THE BEST treatment plan for adult ADHD.
Episode #119: Interview with Dr. Russell Barkley
Dr. Russell Barkley is THE authority on adult ADHD and he is here with us today to chat about all the things. Do not miss this!
Podcast Episode #118: The ADHD Penalty (and why you should stop)
The adhd penalty is the self-inflicted punishment that we feel obligated to inflict upon ourselves because of our adhd shortcomings. This penalty ALWAYS ends up
Podcast Episode #117: Slow and Steady (gross, I know)
Today I talk to my client Sacha about his journey going SLOWLY on his self-development work. Of course we ADHDers prefer to go fast, but what if that impatience actually doesn’t serve us? Today we’re going to inspire you to slow down and look for little wins along the way!
Podcast Episode #116: When you question your diagnosis
Today’s episode is for those of you who question your diagnosis. My client, Emma Strong shares her journey of getting diagnosed and then questioning whether
Podcast Episode #115: Your Special Mind (Especial-Mente TDAH)
BUCKLE UP!! If you are someone whose family didn’t understand or validate your ADHD, you are going to LOVE this conversation. And especially, if you
Podcast Bonus: HOW to be Successful When You’re Inconsistent
We’ve discussed that it’s POSSIBLE to be inconsistent and successful, and this episode is all about howwwwww to do it. All FOCUSED members will have
Podcast Episode #114: An Inconsistent Success
You do not have to be consistent in order to be successful. You do not have to be consistent in order to be successful. You
Podcast Bonus: The Inconsistent Entrepreneur
Calling all entrepreneurs! You don’t have to be consistent in order to be a success in your biz. Join me for a 5-day training July
Podcast Episode #113: Wasting Time
Most adults with ADHD often identify as time-wasters. I’m going to walk you through why this is super counter-intuitive and why we should NEVER believe
Podcast Episode #112: Self Kindness (gross, I know)
If the thought of being nice to yourself makes you want to barf, I get it…but I’ve learned that it’s one of the key factors
Podcast Episode #111: Why You’re Not Productive
I’ve got the secret to being productive and I’m giving it to you today! In this episode I discuss the number one reason why you’re not
Podcast Episode #110: The Benefits of Yoga and Other Musings
In this episode, my client Taucha gives us the scoop on her transition from a career in speech pathology to becoming a yoga teacher…
Podcast Episode #109: Internal Authority Part 2: Ethics and Values
Easily swayed by others? Don’t feel steadfast in making decisions? Your ethics and values are at the core of establishing an internal authority. Tune in
Podcast Episode #108: Indigenous and ADHD
ADHD is not just for White people! On today’s episode I interview my client Jennifer who is half white and half Native Canadian. Her perspective is
Podcast Episode #107: Coaching Call with Kristen
Do you struggle to manage your impulsivity in order to follow your calendar? Do you feelings of fear and shame ever hold you back from
Podcast Episode #106: Internal Authority
Do you struggle to identify and meet your own needs? Do you struggle to self-validate? Do you melt when someone disapproves of you or a decision
Episode #105: “Is ADHD an Excuse?”
A heart to heart about the difference between an excuse and an explanation.
Podcast Episode #104: 50% Latina, 50% White, 100% ADHD
This interview is in the series of interviews I did with my BIPOC clients on the theme that ‘ADHD is not just for white people.’
Podcast Episode #103: The Dangers of ADHD
Most people downplay ADHD in adults. Isn’t it a childhood disorder? I thought it was just for boys? What’s the big deal? Call your aunties
Podcast Episode #102: What I Wish My Doctor Had Told Me About ADHD
When I was diagnosed, my doc said, “Yep, you have ADHD. Here’s some meds!” Maybe your experience was similar to mine. This episode is a
Podcast Episode #101: I Think I Have Adult ADHD
SO. You think you might have ADHD and you’re not sure what TF to do. Yeah, I get it. Here are 5 easy, actionable steps
Podcast Episode #100: Symptoms of Adult ADHD
If you’re wondering what Adult ADHD looks like, this is your episode. I quickly break down the main symptoms of adult ADHD and how those
Podcast BONUS: When You Make A Mistake And Want To Die
3 days ago I made what I considered to be a huge mistake. Today I’m sharing all of the juicy details with you in an
Podcast Episode #99: ADHD and Friendship
It can be very hard for ADHDers to make and keep friends. Why? And what can we do about it? On today’s episode I have my
Podcast Episode #98: The Importance of an ADHD Community
It’s hard to have ADHD. We are so often misunderstood and rejected by our peer groups. Dr. Ned Hallowell says that fellowship is the safest
Podcast Episode #97: Build Your ADHD Scaffolding
Scaffolding is a system, structure, or framework of SUPPORT. Dr. Russell Barkley says that humans of ADHD must have a scaffolding of support around them if
Podcast Episode #96: Find The Gold Where You Are
In this episode, my client Karima speaks of her experience as a black girl growing up in an all-white village in France; how she was
Podcast Episode #95: Business Coaching with Kristen
Calling all entrepreneurs, side-hustlers, and anyone trying to get sh*t done! This episode is a coaching call from Focused. Every month we have a business
Podcast Bonus Episode: An Apology
“…it is out of this space (failure) that the real genuine communication with other people starts to happen, because it’s a very unguarded, wide-open space
Podcast Episode #94: Pardoning Your Past Self: Part 2
If you’re a perfectionist, this episode is for YOU! I can’t wait for you to hear from my client, Melia, who was the first to
Podcast Episode #93: Pardoning Your Past Self
It’s time that you issue a pardon to your past self. Failed a class in college? Pardoned! Forgot to pack your kid’s lunch? Pardoned! Got fired
Podcast Episode #92: ADHD is Not Just for White People
Tune in today for an eye-opening and vulnerable conversation that I have with my client, Shannon Taylor. Shannon is a perfect example of what’s possible for a black woman with ADHD. This episode is the first in a series of episodes that I look forward to recording with my BIPOC clients.
Podcast Episode #91: The Power Move
I’ve got a major ADHD life hack for you today! It’s probably not exactly what you’re expecting, but it’s changed my life and I think it will change yours, too. The power move is when we intentionally get out of our HEADS and drop down into our BODIES. We feel. On purpose. Sounds excruciating, right!? I know…but I swear it’ll be worth it.
Podcast Episode #90: Surviving Saturdays
I don’t know about you, but I turn into a complete monster when I have a day off. And since we just got through the Christmas break, I have a LOT of thoughts about how we can treat ourselves (and others) better when we’re not in our normal routine. Today you’ll learn the 5 strategies to surviving Saturdays
Podcast Episode #89: The Art of Getting Back on the Horse
I love it when my clients are amazing examples of what is possible for adults with ADHD. My dear client Rich sent me his 2020 evaluation and I Had to invite him onto the podcast to share it with you all.
Podcast Episode #88: ADHD Coaching
Need a boost? Perfect, this call is for you. I coach on anxiety, overwhelm, obligations, procrastination, and business. I want you to see how helpful it is to get coaching and how you can apply this coaching to your own life.Aside from medication, coaching has been the most helpful thing to me, and to many others. Many of my own huge transformations have come when watching or listening to someone else being coached.
Podcast Episode #87: Conversation with My Sister: A Physical Therapist and Super Hyperactive ADHDer
In this episode I interview my sister Adrienne Himelright. Adrienne has ADHD and is a Doctor of Physical Therapy. She’s an awesome example of what’s possible for someone with ADHD and I can’t wait for you to hear from her!
Podcast Episode #86: The 2021 Impossible Goal
What are you capable of in 2021? The only way to find out is to set a big scary goal for yourself! In this episode you’ll learn WHY you should go for it and HOW to go about doing it!
Podcast Episode #85: Stop Striving for Perfection
When adults with ADHD set goals, we usually strive for the IDEAL rather than something attainable. This creates MORE failure for us. In this episode we’ll dive into the concept of a minimum baseline and how it will help you to achieve your goals with a much higher success rate!
Podcast Episode #84: When You Get Nothing Done
Ever have one of those days where you “lose” 6 hours to spacing out on the couch? When you do, how do you treat yourself? This episode is a deep-dive into self-acceptance.
Podcast Episode #83: Stop Shoulding on Yourself
ADHDers don’t like to be told what to do. So why do we spend so much of our own mental energy telling ourselves that we “should” and “have to” do things? It’s not fun and it’s not working! Today’s episode is a bit of a smackdown. Are you ready?
Podcast Episode #82: Overcoming Overwhelm
For ADHDers, overwhelm is a whole thing. A WHOLE THING. In this episode you’ll learn specific strategies for tackling overwhelm and kicking it to the curb.
Podcast Episode #81: Capitalize on Your Strengths
I don’t have it all together. There, I said it. In this episode I dive into why it’s important to focus on our strengths and allow ourselves to have areas of weakness. Want to know the 10 things I’ve messed up on recently? Here ya go!
Podcast Episode #80: Change Your Mind About Yourself
You can’t hate yourself into improvement. You have to change your mind about yourself first. On today’s episode, I chat with my client and friend Verity Garvey, who went from self-loathing to self-acceptance and is now coaching others to do the same. Be inspired, my friend. If it’s possible for Verity, it’s possible for you.
Podcast BONUS: Adult ADHD Coaching
This episode is the audio of one of my recent coaching calls. We tackle phone addiction, insecurity at work, and self judgement. Some of my most transformative breakthroughs have been when I’ve listened to OTHER people get coached, and I know this is possible for you, too.
Podcast Episode #79: Bad Days
I had a REALLY bad day recently and it just so happened to be podcast recording day. I almost didn’t record an episode for you, but thought maybe it would be helpful to share my own bad day with you so that you can learn to process and accept your bad days. You are 100% not alone, ADHDer. I got you.
Podcast Episode #78: How to Follow Through
Every adult with ADHD wants to learn how to follow through. This episode includes a 4-step process that you can use to become someone who does what they say they’re going to do. Do you identify as reliable? I do. It’s possible for you, too!
Podcast Episode #77: ADHDer: Your Memory Sucks
This episode is kind of a good news/bad news situation 🙂 If you have ADHD, then your memory is terrible. Specifically, your nonverbal working memory.
Podcast Episode #76: You 2.0
In last week’s episode, I taught you the concept of your future self. This week you’re going to hear from Jen 2.0, one of my
Podcast Episode #75: Your Future (Badass) Self
Most of us spend a lot of time thinking about the past and beating ourselves up about it. The result we get from this is
Podcast Episode #74: Taking Massive Action
Massive action is the type of action that produces an actual RESULT. It’s the opposite of passive action (researching, learning, asking for help) which doesn’t actually PRODUCE anything. Tune in to learn more!
Podcast Episode #73: Adult ADHD + Procrastination
Finally! We’re chatting today about procrastination – why we do it and how to overcome it.
Podcast Episode #72: Keeping Your Sanity in 2020
In the midst of Covid-19, an election year, and all of the difficult cultural issues in our world, here’s my pep talk for you to
Podcast Episode #71: Success Intolerance and Self-Sabotage
No one tells you that success actually feels TERRIBLE, but it does. I want you to be on the lookout for the discomfort that goes
Podcast Episode #70: How To Be Productive
All adults with ADHD want to learn how to be more productive. Today on the podcast I’m sharing my 5-step FAIL PROOF system for upping
Podcast Episode #69: 2 Results-Stealing Mindsets to Avoid
Today I’m and telling you about the 2 mindsets that will always 100% steal positive results from you. I speak from experience, and I hope
Podcast Episode #68: My New Beliefs About Money
ADHDers are notoriously bad with money – I want to lead CHANGE for our community in this area. Everything about my finances has transformed in
Podcast Episode #67: Change IS Possible for ADHD Adults
Do you wonder if it’s too late for you? Do you make the same mistakes over and over and wonder if improving is even possible?
Podcast Episode #66: How To Be Consistent
This is probably the most important episode I’ve recorded to date.
Podcast Episode #65: ADHD + Buffering
Buffering is anything we do to avoid feeling badly. Identifying buffering in your life is a MAJOR ADHD HACK because once you see it for
Podcast Episode #64: Adult ADHD + Outsourcing
Today’s episode is all about intentionally spending on your time on what you’re good at and outsourcing the stuff that you suck at. I’ve got
Podcast Episode #63: Adult ADHD + How to Fail (And Not Let It Break You)
Failure is the most important skill you need to learn if you want to be successful. I know we’ve talked about it before, but DUDE!
Podcast Episode #62: Adult ADHD + All the Ideas
Today we talk about sticking with ONE idea at a time and seeing it through to completion. Our brains love novelty and hate boredom, but
Podcast Episode #61: 100k in 6 Months – If I Can Do It, YOU Can Do It
Today I’m sharing the 5 things I’ve recently learned about entrepreneurship that have changed EVERYTHING for me. It’s allowing me to create money FAST. If
Podcast Episode #60: Accepting Your Adult ADHD
Self-acceptance is the FOUNDATION for behavior change. You will never produce consistent positive results in your life if you don’t first decide to accept your
Podcast Episode #59: Adult ADHD + Self Confidence
Raise your hand if you struggle with self-confidence. Today’s episode is a class that I taught in Focused on Self-Concept & Identity, which are the
Podcast Episode #58: Adult ADHD + Permission to Rest
Do you give yourself permission to rest and relax? My guess is that you don’t. Let’s chat about how ADHD adults can peacefully turn their
Podcast Episode #57: 10 Tips for Going to Bed On Time
Raise your hand if you struggle to go to bed on time. “On time” = when you want to go to bed, or when you
Podcast Episode #56: Adult ADHD + Perfectionism
Today we’re talking about perfectionism: Holding yourself to unrealistically high standards and then beating yourself up when you inevitably do not meet those standards. Perfectionism
Podcast Episode #55: Adult ADHD + Procrastivity
Procrastivity is a term that Russell Ramsay coined, and I love it. Ramsay is the author of the new book, Rethinking Adult ADHD, and I’m
Podcast Episode #54: Married to ADHD with Greg Carder [Part 2]
Today’s episode is part 2 of my conversation with my husband, Greg. We laugh about time blindness, the fact that I hate getting out of
Podcast Episode #53: Married to ADHD with Greg Carder [Part 1]
Meet my husband Greg! He’s my polar opposite and he’s here to chat about what it’s like to be in relationship with an ADHDer. On
Podcast Episode #52: Adult ADHD + Waking Up on Time
One of the topics that I coach on the most is getting out of bed “on time.” This is HUGE for adults with ADHD. If
Podcast Episode #51: Adult ADHD + Quarantine
Well, here we are! If you’re struggling to find your way during quarantine, you’re not alone. I am too. I’m here today with 5 reason
Podcast Episode #50: Get Out of the Funk: Generating Positive Emotion
No one ever told me that I get to choose how I feel about something. I always thought my emotions happened to me. Today we
Podcast Episode #49: Emotions ALWAYS Lead to Our Actions [or Our Inaction]
Emotions always lead to our actions. So…want to stop avoiding? Wish you could stop procrastinating? Sick of getting stuck on social media? The secret is
Podcast Episode #48: ADHD & Shame (again)
Shame is something that all of us with ADHD experience. It’s the feeling of contempt that we have for ourselves when we fail to meet
Podcast Episode #47: Life is 50/50 (and why this is good news)
Life is 50% positive emotion and 50% negative emotion. This means that when you feel awful, nothing has gone wrong…you’re normal. Want to stop procrastinating? Learn how to process and allow negative emotion.
Podcast Episode #46: Thoughts and Emotions are the KEYS to Action
In this episode, ADHD coach Jessica Heimsoth chats with Kristen about the importance of managing our thoughts and FEELING our emotions. I wanted you to
Podcast Episode #45: ADHD + Setting [Realistic] Goals
If you’re being treated for your ADHD and still don’t feel like you’re reaching your potential, I want you to join Focused. It’s my monthly
Podcast Episode #44: ADHD + Time Blindness
We are controlled by the NOW. Need an ADHD coach? Go to www.ihaveadhd.com/focused
Podcast Episode #43: ADHD + When Something Always Comes UP
People often say “I want to get this done, but something always comes up” Let’s discuss this concept. In my world, nothing EVER comes up.
Podcast Episode #42: ADHD and Schedule Fantasies
Stop fantasizing and start DOING. For ADHD coaching go to www.ihaveadhd.com/focused
Podcast Episode #41: ADHD and Decision Making
Decisions + ADHD = HARD!!! Here are some tips to help you! For ADHD coaching go to www.ihaveadhd.com/focused
Podcast Episode #40: How to Talk About ADHD to Friends & Family
We want the people we love to REALLY UNDERSTAND ADHD. But is that even possible? Let’s chat about it 🙂 Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for ADHD coaching.
Episode #38: How to Prioritize with ADHD
How in the world do we choose what’s important AND focus on it?!
Podcast Episode #37: ADHD and Reflection: Reviewing 2019
Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for information on coaching for adults with ADHD.
Podcast Episode #36: Emotional Dysregulation: What To Do When You’re Triggered
5 Steps to feeling better when someone says or does something to set you off.
Podcast Episode #35: 5 Things You Need INSTEAD of Motivation
Yep, you read that right I’M DONE WITH MOTIVATION. Here are 5 things I’m doing instead.
Podcast Episode #34: Parenting with ADHD with our friend Laura
You asked for it! Here ya go! Definitely NOT the “10 tricks to being a perfect parent” episode that you were probably hoping for, but
Podcast Episode #33: Saying No
It’s so hard to say no – especially for us ADHDers. Let’s chat about why saying no is ESSENTIAL if we’re going to stay focused and reach our potential!
Podcast Episode #32: ADHD and Failure
The ability to fail (and not let it break us) is one of the most necessary skills that we need to develop. What I am
Podcast Episode #31: ADHD + Autism Spectrum Disorder with Laura Brooke
Our friend Laura Brooke (PHL Organizer) is back to discuss her recent diagnosis of ASD and to give us some insight to how ADHD and ASD differ and how they’re the same.
Podcast Episode #30: ADHD and Neuroplasticity
Your ADHD brain is in charge of EVERYTHING in your life, and it can change and improve!
Podcast Episode #29: How to Get an ADHD Diagnosis
How does one acquire an ADHD diagnosis? Here are some very practical tips.
Podcast Episode #28: Celebrities with ADHD
Ready for some inspiration?! Well, here it is. I’m super pumped to share this episode with you! From Simone Biles to Bill Gates – there’s nothing we can’t do.
Podcast Episode #27: Habits
If you have ADHD, then you struggle with habits! Let’s figure out a way to do the things we want to do….
Podcast Episode #26: Thought Downloads
I’m baaaaaaaaaaaack!!! So excited to be with you today! Serving up some things I’ve learned over my two-month break! Enjoy!
Podcast Episode #25: Summertime: A Rant
Anyone else drowning in all of the craziness of summer?
Podcast Episode #24: Motivation – Why we don’t have it and how we can get it
Raise your hand if you struggle with motivation! This episode explains why we struggle and some ways to combat it. Click here to read
Podcast Episode #23: ADHD + The Enneagram
IT’S HERE, PEEPS! I finally recorded an episode on the enneagram personality types and I could not be more excited to share it with
Podcast Episode #22: Money Mindset
Many of us ADHDers are broke. We make impulsive decisions, are in debt, feel that we never have enough, and don’t know how to CHANGE.
Podcast Episode #20: REGRET (5 Steps To Kicking It To The Curb)
What is it that you regret? How in the world can we let it go? Here are some simple steps that can help you to accept your past and create a new future for yourself.
Podcast Episode #19: Your Brain is Your Most Valuable Asset
We spend a lot of time hating on our ADHD brains – but what if your brain is your most valuable asset? The truth of the matter is, your entire life is created by your brain, so investing in your brain is an investment in your entire life. In this episode, I share how I’m choosing to think about my brain differently, and how it’s changing everything for me.
Podcast Episode #18: How The HECK Do I Organize? With Professional Organizer, Laura Brooke
In this episode, Laura Brooke, professional organizer (who has ADHD) gives us all the practical steps to organizing our space.
Think that ADHD and organization don’t mix? Think again! You can be organized. Organization is a talent for some, but it’s also a skill that can be developed by the rest of us who are just naturally messy people.
Podcast Episode #17: The Mindset of Organization with Laura Brooke, Professional Organizer
Organization and ADHD do not mix, right? WRONG! Today I welcome my very first guest to the podcast: Laura Brooke, a professional organizer diagnosed with ADHD. Crazy, right? In this episode, Laura walks us through the mindset of organization and uncovers for us exactly what it takes to change our thoughts on this never-ending struggle.
Podcast Episode #16: MAJOR BRAIN HACK!
This is the number one brain hack I have encountered – I use it in my own life and try to get EVERY ADHDER I know to do it, too.
Podcast Episode #15: What To Do When You’re Not OK
Ever have those days (or weeks) when you’re just not OK and you’re not sure WHY? Yeah, me too. Let’s talk about some practical strategies to overcoming intermittent depression.
Podcast Episode #14: Small Steps, Big Changes
Based on the book Atomic Habits, let’s chat about how our small steps can lead to huge changes. And OH HOW WE AVOID those small methodical steps, don’t we?!
Podcast Episode #13: Relationships Part 2 (the 10 keys to success)
Here are some truth bombs about relationships and how to make them successful. I hope it’s helpful to you! If you’re struggling to educate your
Podcast Episode #12: Relationships Part 1
I really hope you enjoy this episode! Here is my free printable for you, friend!! Click HERE to download it. Coach with Kristen
Podcast Episode #11: 5 Beliefs That Will Change Your Life
LIFE CHANGING!! Today we’re going to discuss psychology 101 – which, we are not really taught in mainstream education. But I think if we were,
Podcast Episode #10: MONEY MONEY MONEY!
Do you suck at managing your money? Can’t seem to save for the future? Don’t understand why you buy so many things without thinking? These are all characteristics of adults with ADHD! Join me on this episode as we chat about the challenges of taking care of our finances as adults with ADHD.
Podcast Episode #9: Explosive Emotions
Here are the sources that I used for this important episode: Emotion Worksheet Scholarly article on emotional dysregulation and ADHD Watch this video of Dr.
Podcast Episode #8: 5 Tips to Setting and Achieving Goals
No idea how to set or achieve goals? I feel ya! Here are 5 practical tips you can apply today to get started on crushing those goals!
Podcast Episode #7: Grocery Shopping Tips for Dopamine-Depleted Brains
Do you hate grocery shopping as much as I do? Why do the “easy” things in life seem so hard for you and me? One word: dopamine. Let’s commiserate about how much we hate mundane tasks!
Podcast Episode #6: Living with Vision
Vision is the picture you have in your mind of what you want your life to be. It’s the destination. The end goal. Unfortunately those
Podcast Episode #5: Shame
So many of us adults with ADHD are walking around feeling ashamed of our symptoms and behaviors. Shame can be limiting and debilitating. I invite
Podcast Episode #4: Tidying Up
I thought I hated Marie Kondo’s Netflix show, Tidying Up, but I’ve changed my mind. Find out which of Marie’s tricks we ADHDers can use
Podcast Episode #3: Owning Your Diagnosis
Your life won’t improve until you accept and own your diagnosis. That’s when the party really starts. It’s taken me several years to really change my thinking about ADHD. Once I changed my thinking, I could change my actions and improve my life, and you can, too.
Podcast Episode #2: Crucial Info My Doc Never Told Me
This episode is all about your frontal lobe and executive functioning and why you should care about both. It’s life-changing information regarding adult ADHD that my doctor never told me!
Episode #1: What Does Adult ADHD Look Like?
Let’s talk about the symptoms of adult ADHD.