Episode #257: You’re Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse with Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna

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You might remember psychotherapists Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna from episode 200 where we talked about toxic relationships and their impact on ADHDers. You may also know their podcast called In Sight: Exposing Narcissism.

Well, since we last visited, they’re ALSO co-authors of You’re Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse and How to Heal.

I’m honored to have these two incredible ladies back on the podcast to discuss some of the emotionally abusive behaviors they commonly see from parent to child. Even if you believe you had a very normal childhood and your parents were wonderful people, I’d urge to to listen to this episode. 

A lot of the tendencies your parents might’ve had (or have now) may be your normal, but that doesn’t mean there’s not some generational trauma at play. 

Note: This is not me saying your parents aren’t wonderful people; they very well may be! But recognizing some of these tendencies can be PIVOTAL to unpacking and working through your ADHD — and they can help you avoid repeating the same behaviors.

So, without further adieu, I re-welcome, Helen and Katie!

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