Having ADHD as an adult is a very interesting thing. I am a 37-year-old company owner and mother of 3. I am a wife, a musician, a friend, a daughter, and I love to discuss politics.


And I have ADHD.


I was diagnosed twice, first at age 21 and then again at age 30. Both times the clinician asked me a series of questions out of what I now know was the DSM-V (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). This interview lasted about 20 minutes.


Then came this phrase, “Yes, you have ADHD. The medication I recommend for this disorder is…” And that was that.


Looking back, I’m pretty frustrated that neither of these medical professionals (one was a family doctor and the other was a psychiatrist) took the time to explain ADHD to me. There was no conversation about symptoms, impairments, therapies, or interventions.


I didn’t even get a pamphlet.


Because of this, I lived for so long thinking that ADHD was simply an inability to pay attention. I took medication, and yet I was still frustrated with my life. Why? Because I was still dealing with all of these issues:

  • Inability to prioritize and plan
  • Inability to use my time wisely
  • Inability to remain cool, calm, and collected when I was frustrated
  • Inability to start an overwhelming project
  • Inability to finish an overwhelming project
  • Inability to remember to do the stuff I really wanted to do
  • Inability to switch out of work mode and into mom mode
  • Inability to be consistent in the things I wanted to accomplish in life
  • Inability to keep a goal in mind for any length of time
  • Extreme frustration when I was interrupted
  • Inability to do something that I thought is pointless (like scrub the floors every week when I knew they were just going to get dirty again)
  • Inability to deal with the constant noise that my kids made
  • Inability to wait for my husband to finish his sentences before I spoke


When I finally learned through education and research that each one of these obnoxious behaviors was a symptom or impairment from my ADHD, my mind was blown!


So I put together a resource for you, it’s the 10 Things I Wish My Doc Had Told Me When I Was Diagnosed with ADHD. If you’ve been diagnosed with ADHD, I sincerely hope that you already know this information. But if your diagnosis experience was anything like mine, I’m going to guess that you don’t.


Grab your free resource here: 10 Things I Wish My Doc Had Told Me When I Was Diagnosed.


This is why I am so passionate about helping adults with ADHD. If we live our lives thinking that ADHD is a basic inability to pay attention, we will remain in a constant state of frustration at all of the other symptoms and impairments from the disorder!

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  • Tamara Munson says:

    This, so much this.
    I’m 18 mos into diagnosis and have done lots of reading and listening and watching but it’s been difficult to find skilled help re: adulting with ADHD. Kinda weird. Very weird. “Here’s a controlled substance for your diagnosis (that cost you almost $1000 in copays to get, in 5 visits, not a simple thing.) But that’s all we have for ya.
    And don’t act too eager for your meds or we’ll get nervous and cut you off. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

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