Episode #314: Two Things Can Be True (and Also… I’m Apparently Racist Against White Men?)

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About This Episode

Today we’re talking emotional flexibility, why black-and-white thinking is holding you back, and how one tiny phrase (borrowed from parenting wisdom!) can radically change how you relate to yourself and others: “Two things can be true.”

You’ll also get:

A cheat-code app for building emotional intelligence (perfect for ADHD brains)
My spicy take on that viral New York Times ADHD article
A heartfelt message for anyone struggling with a late diagnosis
And yes… the spicy podcast review that called me racist and sexist against white men

It’s messy, it’s honest, it’s full of laughs and truth bombs. Basically, it’s classic ADHD.

Hit play now—because this episode might just change how you see yourself (and the world)

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