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From snow on the roof to sand between your toes, we have all the vacation rental options covered. Go to VRBO now and book a last minute week long stay. Save over $390 this holiday season and book your next vacation rental home on VRBO. Average savings $396. Select homes only. Welcome to the I have ADHD Podcast where it’s all about education, encouragement and coaching for adults with adhd. I’m your host Kristin Carter and I have adhd. Let’s chat about the frustrations, humor and Challenges of adulting relationships with, working and achieving with this neurodevelopmental disorder. I’ll help you understand your unique brain, unlock your potential, and move from point A to point B. Hey, what’s up? This is Kristen Carter and you are listening to the I have ADHD podcast. I am medicated, I am caffeinated, and I am ready to roll. Let’s go. Podcast listens have been way up in the last few weeks, so if you are a new listener, I want to welcome you. Hi. I’m so glad you’re here. I assume you’re an adult with ADHD or you love an adult with adhd. And I hope you will find this resource to be extremely helpful to you. Frankly, I’m shocked at how little is available in terms of support for those of us educated professional adults with adhd. And I’m super so honored to be a part of the solution to this problem. I’m so happy. I just, like, am so happy to be an example of what’s possible for someone with adhd. I know that if I can make changes and if I can succeed, if I can create a life that I love, then you can too. I was a hot mess. I mean, a hot mess in so many areas of my life. And I’m not a hot mess anymore. I’m not a hot mess anymore. And the thing is, I’m not a special unicorn. I don’t possess magical powers. You can do this, too. I didn’t have crazy, amazing opportunities available to me other than the privilege of married parents, which I totally accept, like, and so thankful for, and a college education. I know those are significant, but honestly, almost 40, and I didn’t even start succeeding until recently. And by succeeding, I mean just like, doing the things that I want to do. We all define success differently, and that’s beautiful. The way that I want to define success is I am doing the things that I’ve always wanted to do. I’m able to set goals and reach them. I feel like I’m in charge of where I’m going in my life, and I’ve never felt that way before. I always felt so powerless. I always felt like a. A victim to what was happening in the world. And I don’t feel like that anymore. I really don’t. So, anyway, I figured it out. And I want to tell you that you can figure it out, too. I know you can. It will come with some shame and failure and embarrassment and all of those negative emotions that we’ve been discussing recently. But if you’re willing to tolerate that and learn to move through them. You can create the life that you want. So I’m super pumped to remind you about the webinar that I’m hosting this week. If you’re listening in real time, this episode will come out on Tuesday, July 14, and the webinar is this Thursday, July 16 at 1pm Eastern. I’m going to be teaching you why you’re not taking action and giving you very specific training on how to combat your lack of action. It’s going to blow your minds and I hope you’ll join me. Make sure you head to my website to register. Let me think. What is the web address? Ihaveadhd.com webinar is where you’ll be able to put in your email address that will register you for the webinar. And then I’ll send you some reminders so that you don’t forget. Okay, so today we’re going to be talking about something super fun. We’re talking about outsourcing because I’ve been doing this more and more and it’s changing my life. So I always love to talk to you guys in real time about the things that are changing my life. I don’t, like, wait until I’ve perfected everything. I don’t even think that’s an option. And I just like to talk to you about it while I’m in process. I feel like that is the best way to be an example of what’s possible because it shows the transformation while it’s happening. So I always dreamed of having people do things for me, the things that I hated doing. But I never truly felt like this was available to me. I never knew how to make it happen. I never had the money for it. I always thought it was for rich people, for other people out there, and that I was never going to be able to take advantage of it. And that might be partially true that it is for rich people. When you have a lot of extra money laying around, of course, I assume, like you’re going to have a lot more options available to you. And I highly doubt that most of you listening identify as having lots of extra money laying around. In fact, many of you have told me that you struggle with money, you’re in debt, you feel totally broke. Side note, we’re studying money in Focus next month. So get into focus. But anyhow, you might not have the money right now to outsource or you might not identify as having the money right now to outsource things, but I think we can do it for Free. I really, really do. And I’ve done it for free for years. So I want to teach you how to do that. So let’s get started. In my opinion, outsourcing is the skill of not doing any stupid stuff that you suck at. Now, not sure that the dictionary would define it as such, but that’s my definition. It’s not doing the stuff that you suck at. Okay, there, I said it. It’s my dream that I would help to create a tribe of ADHDers who are so committed to doing what they’re good at and totally willing to let go of the pressure of doing the things that they’re bad at. So many of us are carrying over. We’re carrying around expectations from childhood or from society, whether it’s been said to us or just implied that we should be able to do everything and do it really well. And so when we don’t or when we can’t, we beat ourselves up, we have shame, we feel like a failure, we believe things about ourselves that just aren’t true. For example, I’m a working mom. I have three kids. Supposedly in my mind I was thinking, okay, I’m responsible to work, to feed my family, three meals a day, keep the fridge and pantry stocked, pay the bills, manage our money, pay the taxes, keep the house tidy, do the laundry, drive everyone around to appointments, put money in my kids lunch accounts, all the little nitty gritty details, help with homework, arrange for childcare when I’m working, coordinate and host playdates, et cetera, et cetera. And like, wow. All of the things that I expect from myself and so many of them I am clinically, like, I don’t want to say unable to succeed at because I know that we can develop the skills. But literally my ADHD diagnosis, diagnosis and the symptoms involved with ADHD make a lot of these things so much harder for me than for the average human. Some of the things on the list I totally want to do and I’m good at. Right? And same thing goes with you in your life. There are some of the mundane nitty gritty things that you love. Some of it I totally hate. I’m bad at. It hangs over my head and it distracts me from doing what I’m good at. And it also distracts me from just enjoying my family. Okay, so guess what? Here’s what I’ve decided. I shouldn’t be good at it all. I shouldn’t be able to take care of all of this in a timely manner. That’s my new thought. And I want to Share it with you. You can borrow it from me anytime. I used to think I should be able to do all of this. I should be able to get this done. I should. I should. I should. And now I think I shouldn’t. I shouldn’t be able to do this. There is no way with ADHD and a job and kids and, you know, ministries that I work in church that I should be able to manage all of these details. There’s no way. So today we’re going to talk about the beauty of outsourcing the stuff that you suck at. Now, the first time I did this, the first several times I did this, it was totally free. So for the purpose of this podcast, I want you to separate the concept of outsourcing being related to money. You don’t have to pay to outsource. And we’re going to talk about that. So how did I do it? All right, so I want to go back in time to about 10 years ago. I was completely overwhelmed with my life. I had two little kids. I wasn’t medicated for adhd. I don’t know how long have you listened to this podcast, but those of you who are lifers know that I took a quite a long break from ADHD medication during the time that I was pregnant and nursing and, like, had littleish kids. I wasn’t on ADHD medication at the time. I was building my tutoring business and I was still trying to do all of the things around the house perfectly. And I had the thought, I should be able to do this. This is my job, okay? So I never really asked for help. I was only working part time. My husband was working full time, and I thought because he was working full time and I was working part time, like, I should be able to work part time and do all the stuff around the house. That was my thought. And then one day I was like, nope, can’t do it. Like, I literally could not do it anymore. And so here’s what I did. I just stopped doing the laundry. Now, I don’t even think we had a conversation about it. I should get Greg on here to chat about it because I do wonder what he would say. He definitely noticed, but I knew I sucked at laundry. It was one of those mundane tasks with lots of steps that took me forever. I was not efficient. I was always forgetting to do it. And one day I just decided to stop. I just stopped doing it. Do you know what happened? Greg started doing it. I outsourced. I outsourced something that I suck at. Now he’s still doing the laundry 10 years later. It doesn’t do all of it. I for sure participate. But he is very good at the methodical tasks of just, like, getting things done because they need to get done. That’s like a strength of his and a weakness of mine. And so I outsourced. We had no money. And like, when I say we had no money, what I mean is we had no money. We struggled to pay our bills. We were often in debt. My husband worked for a church. I was working, like, five to ten paid hours a week. Our income was something like 35 grand a year, which to me now is crazy. Crazy because that’s how much we took in last month. But. But honestly, I can’t wait to talk to you all about money. It’s so freaking fun for me. But anyway, we had no money at the time, okay. And I could have put it on a credit card, but I didn’t even think about it. My brain did not even allow me the possibility to think through, like, hey, this could be something that you could do. My point is, outsourcing doesn’t have to be costly. Sometimes you just need to ask for help. Sometimes you need to admit that you suck at the things that you suck at. You can delegate to your partner. You can trade with your roommate or your best friend. Okay. A lot of us adhders are carrying around so much shame about not being able to do basic things that we become unwilling to just, like, ask. We become unwilling to ask. And I’m wondering, is that you? What is it that you should be asking for help for that you’re not? For some of you, this is like, I need to ask my doctor to prescribe me medication. Right. Some of you need to outsource your focus to a stimulant. I just want to put that out there. That you could actually be thinking about outsourcing your focus to a stimulant medication or non stimulant if you’ve developed great habits. Whatever. Okay. Anyway, so I was coaching a client in Focus yesterday, and we had a conversation about this topic, so. Hi. Beth sending you all the love. She wanted to organize her office, but organization’s not her strong suit. So now I’ve been coaching Beth for a few months. She’s actually was in the original, like, startup group and focused, so I feel as though I know her fairly well. And I sense that she really could likely afford to spend a little money outsourcing in this area. So I encouraged her to hire a professional. Do you know that there are professional organizers out there in the world that will work with you either virtually or in person, and they will help you organize all the things, right? Like, that’s crazy. Amazing. But Beth had some thoughts about this, right? So first the thought was like, this isn’t something that I should have to pay for. Now I wonder if you relate to this, because I for sure do. I should be able to do this myself, right? I shouldn’t have to pay to have someone come in and organize my office because I should be able to do it myself. Again, there is that should. Right there it is right there. So what was so interesting is, as we were coaching on this, the thought I should be able to do this led her to, of course, not hiring someone. Procrastination, avoidance, buffering, buying things on Amazon that she didn’t need. And honestly, the result of that was like, no, you shouldn’t be doing this. You shouldn’t be able to do this. Someone else should, right? So if you often have the thought like, I shouldn’t have to pay for whatever, fill in the blank. Like, normal adults don’t have to pay for organizers. Why should I have to? Well, first of all, that’s not even true. Lots of quote unquote, normal adults pay for organizers. And secondly, why shouldn’t we have to pay for it? Poor organization is a documented symptom of adhd. So why do we have the belief that we shouldn’t have to invest to overcome these symptoms? Now, maybe organization isn’t your thing. Maybe it’s cooking or cleaning or paying bills or picking your kids up from places on time, right? But I want you to kind of fill in the blank here with whatever it is that you know you’re really bad at that you should probably outsource. And again, I think this goes back to the shame from childhood. The thought that we should be able to, a normal person would be able to is our thought. That might not actually even be true, but we do believe that. And so we think we should be able to. There’s a lot of misunderstanding with this diagnosis from our parents and our teachers and our doctors and even our therapists. They don’t. Not all of them, but many of them don’t truly understand the diagnosis, right? They just want to say, like, oh, well, here are some strategies and here’s some tips and tricks and here are the things you need to do, right? We receive shame from these people. And whether or not they are putting it on us or we just take what they say and sometimes we twist it because we are used to feeling shame and so we just assume that people are shaming us, right? We put it on ourselves for not being able to successfully complete the things in the world that most people would consider to be basic tasks. Now, I want to remind you that you shouldn’t be able to easily do these mundane tasks. Why, you might ask? Well, I’d like to refer you back to the diagnostic Criteria According to Dr. Russell Barclay, My favorite psychologist in this area. I think that he is like the best of the best of the best. Okay, here are the things that he considers to be diagnostic criteria for adults with adhd. First of all, you’re easily distracted by extraneous thoughts or stimuli. You make decisions impulsively. You have difficulty stopping activities or behaviors when you know you should. You start a project or a task without reading or listening to directions carefully. You have difficulty organizing tasks and activities. You fail to follow through on promises or commitments that you make to others. And you have trouble doing the things in their proper order or sequence. Now, after reading that list, tell me that we should be good at organizing. Tell me. Go ahead. I’m going to wait here. Just kidding. Not going to wait because you’re not going to tell it to me, right? Tell me that I should be able to go into a totally cluttered, messy area and succinctly organize it in an orderly fashion. It’s not going to happen. According to the diagnostic criteria for adhd, I shouldn’t be able to do it right. So why not outsource it? Now, another thing that comes up for us, and I know this came up for Beth yesterday, is that someone else might do it wrong, right? If I hire an organizer, they might throw out something that I need or they might mess up this other area. And sure, that is true. Somebody, anybody that you hire ever in your life could do it wrong. Any mechanic that you hire could mess up your car. That doesn’t stop you from hiring the mechanic, right? Any electrician can come into your home and screw up your electricity. That doesn’t stop you from hiring the electrician. You still are like, I have no idea how to do this. You have to do it for me. Listen to that. I have no idea how to do this. You have to do it for me. Could you maybe apply that to cooking, to organizing, to cleaning, to getting your people to the places on time? I have no idea how to do this. You have to do it for me, right? So I’m not going to worry about whether or not the electrician or the mechanic or the plumber is going to mess it up. More, I’m going to assume, assume that because they’re an expert, they’re going to do a better job than I can. Right? So I’m just going to hire them to fix the thing that I am not qualified to do. Could they mess it up more? Sure. Does that happen sometimes? Sure. But in general, it’s like very unlikely. They make things work better. Okay, now here’s where I want to take this conversation is a lot of you don’t want to ask your partners or your kids to help with cleaning or laundry or whatever the case may be because you have the thought that they’ll mess it up or do it wrong. And I want to say enough with that nonsense, okay? What is doing it wrong? Even look like, like, cleaning is cleaning. Cooking is cooking. A meal on the table is a meal on the table. Let’s lower our standards, people. Right? Like the washing machine literally washes the clothes. So if you’re like concerned that your 12 year old’s going to fold things improperly, like, let’s get over that. Okay? Let’s outsource the things that we suck at. Now let me be clear. I’m not suggesting that you require your partner or your kids to like do all the work for you while you sit around and do nothing. It’s not what I’m trying to say. I’m not saying to use this outsourcing. Wow, I lost the word concepts. There it is. Do you ever like have this experience where you’re not able to find words? I want to tell you that you can change the world anyway. Like, you can be mid sentence and just stop and then find the word and then carry on. You can still change the world even if you are at a loss for words sometimes. Okay? So I’m going to start that again. Don’t outsource with the intention of sitting on your butt doing nothing. Okay? That’s not what I’m trying to say. I’m not trying to give you permission to use this concept to be lazy. Right? And of course we can develop the skill of organization. We can develop the skill of cooking, we can develop the skill of cleaning. Right? And we want to take care of our partners. We love them, we love our kids, we want to be helpful to them. But if you’re like me and you’ve always felt as though you should be able to take care of everything yourself and that asking for help is a shameful sign of weakness, then I invite you to reconsider those thoughts. I want you to think about what you’re really Good at. Now I found out I’m really good at coaching, and I’m really good at making money. It was super fun for me. It’s easy. It’s like my secret sauce. I would so much rather spend two hours of my time working to help my clients in my coaching practice than doing laundry or cleaning. And the truth is, it’s much more financially beneficial for me to spend that two hours of my time creating value for my. For my clients, creating value for my customers, helping all of the people that I want to help. It’s so much more financially beneficial to the whole family. Right? So I would so much rather pay someone else to cook or to clean so that I can create value in my company doing something that I love. And it works out perfectly for both of us. So I want to share with you some of the things that I’ve outsourced through the years to give you ideas for yourself. So like I said before, the first, like, 10 years of me outsourcing was completely free. Right? When I was in scarcity mindset, I didn’t have any money. I was often in debt, and I had no idea how to create more income for myself. I was outsourcing for free. Free. And you can, too. No matter whether or not you have a lot of money, you could always outsource for free. Okay? Now, like I said before, I did stop doing laundry. Okay? Not that I never do it. I do do laundry, but it doesn’t rest on my shoulders. I don’t let it hang over my head. Like, this is my job. When I see that it’s going, I participate. When there’s, like, a basket to be folded, I. I fold it like I’m, you know, I’m in with the laundry. But I don’t carry around the weight of, like, this is my job. Right? I want to make that distinction. Okay? Additionally, I usually take care of the money and the bills and, like, the mail coming in, like, the. The clutter and paperwork. But every once in a while, a pile builds up that I just. I can’t do it. So I’ll say to Greg, babe, love you. There’s a pile here. It needs to be taken care of. I can’t. I can’t. There’s bills in there. If you want the bills paid on time, you’re gonna need to go through this pile. If not, it’s fine. I’ll take care of it when I can. But if you want them paid on time, you’re gonna need to go through it. And P.S. he’s like, super Happy to help. Because he. He really wants the bills paid on time, right? So he’s like, I’m on it. All right. And the key here, though, is no matter what his reaction, I don’t shame myself. So if he’s like, dude, I’m working on all of these other things, this is your job. Why aren’t you just taking care of it? And I’m like, I know, you are totally right, but I’m not going to do it. I can’t do it. So it’s not going to happen. And so you can do it if you want to, or it’s just going to sit there and that’s the end of it. I don’t use it to make it mean anything about me, and I don’t use the scenario to make it mean anything about him. I just, like, turn my brain off and move on. Years ago, this is, like, a really goofy example, but one time I outsourced my wrapping, which is so funny to think about the things that used to overwhelm me. So I used to get overwhelmed by wrapping for Christmas, and now this was, like, even before we had kids. So I don’t. I mean, was I just rapping for Greg? I don’t even know. I can’t even remember, remember. But I. I do remember being so overwhelmed with Christmas present wrapping and just being like, I gotta do it. Don’t know when to do it. I don’t know how to do it. I can’t make myself do it. God bless the old version of me. She was darn cute. So anyway, I was texting with my friend Jamie and she was like, how about I come rap for you and you, like, bake cookies and coach me? Or. She didn’t say coach, but that’s. That’s basically what it was. So I baked cookies for her, I talked her through her relationship, and she wrapped presents for me. Right. It was a mutually beneficial exchange. Outsourcing is always a mutually beneficial exchange, right? Like, we’re exchanging the things we’re bad at, and we’re either paying someone to do it or picking up slack in another area. Now, I used to trade childcare with my best friend. We both worked. Neither of us had a lot of money, so I would watch her kids while she worked, she would watch my kids while I worked. Outsource done, Right? There’s a whole podcast episode on grocery shopping, but I did stop going to the grocery store. I outsourced it. I use online ordering. It’s amazing. It’s worth paying extra for. Now. I usually pick up at the store. But once in a while we get it delivered to my door. It’s freaking crazy. Amazing. Do you know that even Aldi delivers through Instacart? At least they do in my area. So you don’t have to shop at a fancy store in order to get delivery. I highly recommend it. This is a game changer for those of us with ADHD and my Aldi through, like, I just download the Instacart app. Whatever, whatever. My Aldi delivers within, like two hours. So when you like, sometimes I go to the grocery store and I forget a bunch of stuff. I can even use like the Aldi delivery to make up for that and they deliver within two hours. It’s amazing. Okay. Another way I did this was I coached a friend for free and she made three meals a week for my family. And it was an incredible, incredible benefit to both of us. Outsourcing can be free. Okay. Regardless of your bank balance, you can start today. So I want you to think about, what are you good at? Trade it for something you suck at. Now, recently I have been able to pay for some outsourcing and I want to tell you, this is a life changer. There have been a lot of things that I have hesitated to pay for because again, that thought that I should be able to do it myself is very pervasive for me. And I’m working on it. I am working on it. I don’t want to be someone who believes that. I really don’t. So here are the things that I have started to outsource for myself and it’s making a huge difference in my life. I want to convince you, if you have the money to spend in these areas, number one, I hired an assistant. I think that every adult with ADHD should hire an assistant. It is absolutely life changing. Seriously, how can you create more income for yourself so that you can hire someone to take care of the nitty gritty details that you suck at? Where could you work an extra hour or two just so that you could pay someone else to handle the mundane things of your life? Do you know that there’s virtual assistants literally all over the world who will take care of details for you? Did you know that some of them will work for minimum wage? It just depends on who you hire and what you’re looking for. But don’t think that a virtual assistant has to be super expensive. It does not. This is a weird thing that you might not have ever considered, but I’ve actually outsourced my shopping. And here’s what I mean by that? Okay, so because of the nature of the focus program, here’s what we do. I hold coaching calls and then the calls are recorded and they’re stored in the site like forever, right? So I am not someone who has a lot of clothes. And what I was realizing is that I was wearing the same clothes over and over and the videos are all stored there forever. And I just was feeling like, my gosh, I am having to be on camera and these are all recorded and I don’t want to go shopping. Especially when I think, like, what am I going to wear this, like once a month? Is that my plan? So here’s what I did. I got a subscription to a clothing rental service and I tried le tote first, which is a really weird word, le tote. And it just wasn’t for me. So now I’m doing express style and it’s $60 a month. 66 0. They send you clothes, you wear them, you send them back dirty, they send you more clothes. So I can get like nine different shirts, like shirts or dresses for 60 bucks. It’s amazing. So it’s like work clothes. I don’t even think about it. I just add like shirts to my cart or my closet, I guess it’s called, and they just automatically send you, like, whatever’s in there. I’m telling you that for those of you especially who are working, who don’t like to take the time, effort, energy, money to shop, this is an awesome option. Shout out to my sister in law, Marci. I love you, Marcie. I know you’re listening to this. Thank you for this idea. She gave me this idea. It was the best idea ever. Okay. The next thing that I did is that I hired a podcast producer. Shout out to my podcast producer, Karen. Hi, girl. You’re great. So hiring a podcast producer for this podcast has done a few things for me. It’s definitely saved time because I’m not editing, so obviously it’s a time saver, but it’s improved the quality and it’s also held me to a much stricter deadline because I know I need to get it into her by a certain day and time, which is ironic because I’m actually recording this late. Sorry, Karen. But it does keep me more on top of it and I’ve been much more consistent, haven’t I? A big part of that is because of me hiring producer to take care of some of these mundane details. I’m still having a few meals made each week for our family. It’s amazing. Homemade meals delivered to my door. Dude, I am sure there is someone in your area with a small business who would love to cook for you. Right? Especially if you pay them or trade a special skill that you might have. I’ve been wanting to look into freshly. I still haven’t done it, but I do plan to look into that as well. All right. And lastly on the list, and honestly, it kind of was like, the last thing that I finally bit the bullet and was like, fine, I will do it. This one I’ve resisted for so long. I finally hired someone to clean my house. I mean, this is huge. But I feel really weird saying it because it does feel like, I don’t know. I have some thoughts to work through on this. Like, why can’t I just clean my own house? Right? But, like, that’s the thing. Why can’t we just do it? Right? Right. It’s like, I’m recording this podcast for you, but really, I need it. I need to be reminded that adult ADHD is a whole thing with a whole list of symptoms that make these normal tasks difficult. All right? So I decided, and just this week, that I can work full time and I can parent my kids, but I can’t do it and keep the house at the level of clean that my partner and I enjoy, Especially in the summertime with the kids home all the time. Covid all the things. Right? Like, we’re just all here all the time. So I finally, finally let go of the thought that I should be able to do it myself and I hired someone. Is it the best person for the job? I don’t know. So don’t let that hold you up. Like, well, if I’m gonna hire somebody, I better research it for, like, six months and, you know, do all of the hyper focusing on whether or not it’s the best person. I don’t know if it’s the best person. It’s someone. I’m sure she’s better at it than I am. Okay. If she’s not a good fit, we’ll find somebody else. I want you to think about it that way with the people that you hire as well. Sure. Do your due diligence. Make sure they’re ethical and they’re practicing good business practices. But, like, honestly, they’re probably going to be better at it than you. If they’re not, you’ll find out right away and you can move on to someone else. Don’t let the process of hiring someone or the thought that they have to be the best person person hold you back from taking action. Here’s the recap. One of the biggest ways that an adult with ADHD can thrive is to stop doing the things that they’re bad at. Find someone else to do them. Pay someone else to do them. Let go of the idea that you should be able to do it all perfectly. You shouldn’t. You have adhd. You definitely should not be able to keep track of all of these details. Ask for help. It doesn’t have to be costly. It can be absolutely free. Get creative. Open your brain’s capacity to solve this problem for you. Okay? If you have the ability to pay someone else to do this stuff for you, do it. Start today. Find an assistant. Find a clothing rental. Find someone to, like, take care of the details of the cooking, the cleaning, the things that you’re not good at. Or maybe for you, it’s something completely different. Those are my things. Those are the things that I relate to. I want you to recognize the things in you that you know someone else could do a much better job much quicker, much more efficiently while you do the things that you’re good at that create money for you and value for the world. Focus your brain’s attention on what you’re good at, on what can make you money, on what can make your customers happy or your company happy. Okay. Oh, my gosh. I got into it. I really did. That’s what I have for you today. I’ll see you on the webinar Thursday or in Focused or next week on the podcast. I can’t wait. Have a good one. A few years ago, I went looking for help. I wanted to find someone to teach me how to feel better about myself and to help me improve my organization, productivity, time management, emotional regulation, you know, all the things that we adults with ADHD struggle with. I couldn’t find anything, so I researched and I studied and I hired coaches and I figured it out. Then I created Focus on for you. Focused is my monthly coaching membership where I teach educated professional adults how to accept their ADHD brain and hijack their ability to get stuff done. Hundreds of people from all over the world are already benefiting from this program, and I’m confident that you will, too. Go to ihaveadhd.com focused for all the details.
