Episode #315: Why ADHD Feels So Shameful (and How to Fight Back)

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If you’ve ever felt like your struggles with ADHD make you “less than”—this one’s a must-listen.

We’re diving deep into Shame Resilience Theory (thanks, Brené Brown!) and unpacking why ADHDers are especially vulnerable to toxic shame. Spoiler: It’s NOT because you’re lazy or broken (even if you’ve been made to feel that way).

✨ We’re covering:

Why shame thrives in secrecy—and how to stop feeding it.
The real reason ADHD tasks feel SO loaded with guilt and moral judgment.
How shame travels in families (???? hi, generational shame).
The antidotes: empathy, self-compassion, and speaking your shame OUT LOUD.

We’re done letting shame run the show. Join me and learn how to break the cycle and build real shame resilience ????. Hit play now—you do not want to miss this one!

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