Episode #326: ADHD Nearly Broke Us — How We’re Still Standing After 21 Years with Greg Carder

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What does it look like to stay in love and on the same team when one partner has ADHD and the other doesn’t?

In this episode, I’m joined by my husband Greg—my neurotypical partner of 21 years—for an honest, heartfelt, and often hilarious conversation about what it’s really like to build a life together in a neurodiverse marriage.

We’re answering questions about everything from how Greg came to understand and accept my ADHD, to what helped us navigate parenting neurodivergent kids, to how we’ve held boundaries (without being jerks) and grown through the hard seasons—together.

If you’re wondering how to help your partner “get it,” if you’re craving more acceptance in your relationship, or if you’re simply curious what goes on behind the scenes in our marriage… this episode is for you.

We talk about:

  1. What helped Greg finally get on board with understanding ADHD
  2. Why acceptance is an action, not just a feeling
  3. How to bring a reluctant partner along on your diagnosis journey
  4. How to balance emotional needs when ADHD takes up space in the relationship
  5. Practical ways to support each other without falling into resentment or the parent-child dynamic

This conversation is raw, funny, and full of truth bombs (and yes, Greg absolutely roasts me a few times ????). Whether you’re married, dating, or just dreaming of a healthy relationship someday, I hope this episode reminds you that real love includes imperfection, growth, and mutual care. 

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