Episode #382: You Are Not a F*ck Up with Cate Osborn and Erik Gude

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About This Episode

Today’s episode is pure joy.

I’m hanging out with old friends of the podcast Cate Osborn and Erik Gude, two of the most creative, thoughtful, and FUN voices in the ADHD world. And this conversation goes everywhere in the best possible way.

Cate is a certified sex educator (yes, we go there) whose work has appeared in The New York Times and Cosmopolitan, and you probably know her from Sorry I Missed This on Understood. Erik is her co-host on Catie and Erik’s Infinite Quest: An ADHD Adventure and the brilliant mind behind the viral ADHD Crafting Challenge on TikTok.

Together, they wrote The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, a smart, hilarious, deeply validating, actually-accessible guide that fills the massive info gap so many of us experience after diagnosis.

And friends… this conversation is a ride.

We talk about:

???? What ADHDers are struggling with right now

???? The loudest themes in their DMs

???? ADHD internet culture — what’s helping and what’s… not

???? Self-diagnosis, identity, and taking responsibility without self-blame

???? Relationships, intimacy, and rejection sensitivity

There is so much laughter. So many “OH MY GOSH YES” moments. And the core message that comes through again and again:

You are not broken. You are not lazy. You are not a f*ckup.

This episode feels like sitting at the cool ADHD table with people who get it.

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