Episode #390: Two Steps Forward, Three Steps Back (Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging and How to Finally Stop)

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About This Episode

If you’ve ever set a goal, made a plan, felt excited… and then somehow done the exact opposite—welcome to the ADHD self-sabotage club.

In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful class from inside my ADHD coaching membership, FOCUSED, all about self-sabotage—why it happens, what it actually means, and how to finally understand what’s going on in your brain.

But before we get into it, a little context:

Right now, I’m intentionally taking the path of least resistance to support my ADHD brain and protect my energy. Instead of creating brand-new content from scratch while feeling stretched thin, I’m sharing some of the most impactful classes I’ve already taught inside FOCUSED.

And this one?

It got raving reviews.

Members told me:

  1. “This explained my brain in a way I’ve never understood before.”
  2. “I finally see what’s happening when I get in my own way.”

So if you’ve ever told yourself:

  1. “Why can’t I just follow through?”
  2. “What is wrong with me?”
  3. “Why do I keep sabotaging myself?”

This episode is going to shift how you see yourself—and your ADHD. Because self-sabotage isn’t a character flaw. It’s a pattern with a reason. And once you understand it, everything starts to change.

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Hi, I’m Kristen Carder—ADHD expert, podcast host, and certified coach who’s been exactly where you are. Diagnosed at 21, I spent years cycling through planners, courses, and systems that never quite worked. Everything changed when I discovered the power of understanding my ADHD brain and the transformative impact of community support.

Now, after 15+ years of research and experience, I’ve helped thousands of adults with ADHD thrive. I’m here to show you how understanding your brain can transform your life, just like it did for mine.

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