Episode #410: The Exhaustion, The Book, and The People Who Are Mad at Me

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Kristen Carder

About This Episode

This week’s episode is a personal catch-up on everything that’s been taking up space in my brain lately.

My capacity feels low. My ADHD symptoms feel loud. I’m exhausted in that deep, bone-tired way that makes me want to spend the next two months under a blanket. Between the end-of-school-year chaos, parenting an emerging adult through graduation and next steps, writing a book, and navigating the general heaviness of life right now, I’m feeling it.

I also share some behind-the-scenes updates about my upcoming book, including a title I seriously considered: Nobody’s Mad at You. The problem? It’s not entirely true.

Sometimes people are mad at us. There are people mad at me right now. The goal isn’t to convince ourselves that everyone approves of us—it’s to learn that we can tolerate discomfort, navigate conflict, and stay connected anyway.

In this episode, I talk about exhaustion, ADHD, parenting, the economy, the book-writing process, and the freedom that comes from accepting that being imperfect doesn’t make you unworthy of love, belonging, or healthy relationships.

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