Episode #308: Raising Kids While Being a Hot (ADHD) Mess

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About This Episode

If you’re parenting with ADHD, you already know—it’s a lot. The meltdowns (sometimes yours), the forgotten school forms, the overstimulation, the guilt spiral after snapping at your kid… and then the vow to do better next time.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to be a good enough parent, even when ADHD makes it hard. You’ll learn the 5 essential building blocks every ADHD parent needs (hint: perfection is not one of them), and how to model one of the most powerful relationship skills there is: repair.

Because here’s the thing: ADHD brains mess up sometimes. We say the wrong thing, lose our cool, or zone out when our kid really needs us. That doesn’t make you a bad parent. What matters most is what you do next—and this episode will show you how to turn those moments into meaningful connection.

We’ll also talk about:

  1. The heritability of ADHD (and what that means for your family)
  2. Why understanding your own ADHD is key to raising resilient kids
  3. How to ditch the guilt and embrace accountability
  4. What “good enough” parenting actually looks like
  5. The 5 R’s that help ADHD parents build trust, connection, and confidence

You don’t need to be perfect—you just need to show up, own your mistakes, and keep trying. And guess what? That’s exactly what your kid needs to see.

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