Episode #372: 10 Signs You’re In A Dysfunctional Family

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Kristen Carder

About This Episode

Today’s episode is part one of a two-part series on dysfunctional families and ADHD. (Listen to part 2 here)

I’m sharing this from a very real place. The last few weeks have been heavy with extended family drama, and when things feel overwhelming, I name it and bring it into the light. As someone writing a book on healthy relationships for adults with ADHD, I want you to know I come by this work honestly.

When I look at my own family tree, I see generations shaped by abuse, addiction, emotional neglect, and unaddressed mental health struggles. I refuse to despise my lineage—but I also refuse to continue these patterns. It stops with me.

If you have ADHD, there’s a strong chance your family system shaped how safe it feels to have needs, set boundaries, and regulate emotions. This episode isn’t about blame or shame—it’s about clarity.

You’ll learn:

  1. Why dysfunction can exist even when there was love
  2. How emotional neglect often goes unnoticed
  3. Why guilt shows up when you set boundaries
  4. 10 common signs of a dysfunctional family system

Awareness is how cycles are interrupted.

In Part Two, we’ll explore what healthy families actually look like and how to move toward that—without burning it all down.

Episode Resources: 

Toxic Family Test 

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