Episode #412: How ADHD Steals Your Self-Trust and How to Get It Back with Dr. Russell Ramsay

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What if the biggest obstacle in your life isn’t ADHD? What if it’s that you no longer trust yourself?

In this episode, I sit down with ADHD psychologist and author Dr. Russell Ramsay to talk about one of the most painful and overlooked consequences of living with ADHD: the erosion of self-trust. After years of missed deadlines, abandoned plans, and broken promises to ourselves, many of us begin to wonder if we can rely on our own intentions at all.

Dr. Ramsay shares why self-trust matters, how it gets damaged, and—most importantly—how we can begin rebuilding it. We discuss the difference between self-compassion and letting yourself off the hook, why accountability works better than self-criticism, and how our childhood experiences and family dynamics can shape the way we see ourselves today.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I just do what I say I’m going to do?” this conversation is for you. And make sure to check out Dr. Ramsay’s new book, Once I Get Started: The Adult ADHD Guide to Turning Intentions Into Action.

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