Episode #442: Hey ADHDer, You’re Not Bad at Boundaries. You’re Ignoring Your Limits.

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What if the problem isn’t that you need better boundaries…but that you keep pretending you don’t have limits?

In this coaching conversation, I’m talking with Claire, a children’s book illustrator who has spent years saying yes to too much, working nights and weekends, relying on hyperfocus to get everything done, and eventually burning herself out.

We unpack why ADHD hyperfocus isn’t always the “superpower” people make it out to be—and how constantly overriding your own capacity can cost you your health, relationships, creativity, and trust in yourself.

We also talk about the beliefs we inherit from our families about work, success, money, and rest—and what it looks like to consciously break the agreements that no longer serve us.

If you’re constantly overcommitting now and assuming Future You will somehow figure it out, this conversation is for you.

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